I was sitting quietly beside my 6 year old during his online class, helping him stay focused. He's a little shy, so I stay nearby for support. We don’t have a fancy setup he’s on a plastic table in the corner of our small living room. Behind him, you can see a shelf with some canned goods and a wall fan that barely works. His teacher who’s always had this smug tone paused and said, “Maybe you can change your background next time. It’s... distracting. And a bit cluttered, don’t you think?” Right there. In front of the whole class. My son just stared at the screen, confused and embarrassed. I felt my face go hot. She didn’t say it like a joke. It was judgmental. Plain and clear. I tried to keep calm, but I spoke up and said, “I don’t think it’s okay to shame a student’s home setup.
We’re doing our best here.” She replied, “Oh, I wasn’t trying to shame anyone. I was just offering a suggestion.” Yeah right. Later, my husband said I overreacted. That maybe the teacher meant well and I just made things worse for our son by saying something during class. But like... what was I supposed to do? Let it slide? Let her keep making kids feel small for not having Pinterest-worthy homes? I’ve been stuck replaying it in my head. I feel like I embarrassed my son even more. But I also feel like if I didn’t speak up, I’d be teaching him to just sit and take it when people act better than you. So now I’m wondering... was I too sensitive? Did I blow it out of proportion? AITAH?
NTA and Id be sending an email to the principal about it.
Exactly. That wasn’t just a harmless suggestion it was a judgment that could stick with a kid. Speaking up was the right call, and looping in the principal might help prevent it from happening to someone else.
OP absolutely needs to notify the principal and go higher if she gets no help there. That is beyond unprofessional
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Exactly. A child’s learning space should never be a reason for public criticism, especially from a teacher. That kind of comment can stick with a kid. OP handled it with way more grace than most would.
Plus, she doubled down instead of apologizing. It was very out of line.
You did not overreact. I am a retired public-school teacher. I am shocked and appalled at what that teacher said to your son. She will not take your actions out on your son. She knows now that you will speak with her should she unfairly call out your son. You should document the conversation and file it away. If something like this happens again, you will want to speak to the school administrators. And that teacher needs to focus on teaching her lesson. A big part of teaching is being able to teach even when disruptions are going on elsewhere, eg. out in the hall or out the window.
Some people don't have the heart to be a teacher. They're in it for other reasons, though God knows it's not the money.
You submit a complaint on that yesterday. People who fucking bully children have no place as teachers
Exactly. If a teacher’s first instinct is to judge kids’ homes, they need a serious rethink on why they’re in this job.
I'm a teacher and I did online during Covid. Never comment on what you see in the background. It's so rude. You are not overreacting. She's a smug turd.
So here's the thing .... people KNOW when they've been insulted. She knew what she did, and now shes trying to walk it back because she got caught. She didn't know you were there and was bullying a child in front of his peers.
You know what a good intentioned person would have done ?? Apologized. Immediately, sincerely and thoroughly.
You know what a good teacher would have done??? Addressed any issues privately in a chat or an email to yourself AND not called it out in class.
I mean unless there were animals or people getting up to no good. I fail to see why a fan and some shelves deserved immediate call out in front of everyone.
Edited to add. Your child is 6 !! What dud she expect him to do about it ???
I would advise complaining to her supervisor about her unprofessional comment and poor behavior in front of her class
NTA
Does the class app have an option for fake backgrounds? Many do. It's possible many of the students use them.
Those are wonderful when they work, but some computers and some internet connections don't handle them well.
They cause disruptions more often than not for elementary aged students. They would have to set ALL to the same background, and sometimes those just don’t work.
During the early pandemic my ex worked from home for a newspaper and had multiple daily meetings. The only private space away from kids was a room that had previously been my sister’s and she has severe mental illness so doodled on the wall in a chaotic way (some of it was really artsy but some was just pure schizophrenia….) and we hung up a plain sheet so we didn’t get awkward comments.
NTA, and I'm sure your son will appreciate you sticking up for him in the long run. As someone who's been bullied - and by teachers too - not having anyone stick up for us feels much worse.
NTA. That was straight-up shaming. Everyone heard and it was a bad example of what to say to children. It teaches them that passive-aggressive is the way and that bullies can be any age.
NTA but I'd have a strongly worded discussion with the admin about that teacher.
You did not over react and I would be putting in a formal complaint
NTA - I work in high school education. I can’t imagine saying something like this to a 16 yo student, let alone a 6 yo one. You were right to say something in the moment, but now you need to contact admin at the school. Even if it’s just to document the interaction, it needs to be done.
Also, would recommend contacting via email for paper trail purposes.
No you weren't out of line a bit. I'd be talking to.the principle or board president. That's in the line of Fafo. She/he needs some discipline and sensitively training.
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You are not overreacting, but honestly, you could have a lot of fun with some very interesting backgrounds. You could put up in the next while. Get creative.
I had a biology teacher who was an awesome dude. He always said he was laid back and pretty lenient except for a few things. " you never make fun of someone for their name, their or their parents' profession, or their home. Especially kids, as they don't have a say/influence with any of these things". I've remembered and lived by this, and the world would be a better place if everyone did too
Edit: NTA. It's fucked up to attack a child over their home
Biology teachers are quite consistently awesome I’ve found.
Online classes for six year olds isn't going help with the shy part.
NTA the teacher should have stuck to the lesson. If she's that easily distracted by your background she needs to find another career.
"Maybe next time you can keep your comments to your job. Your opinions are distracting".
NTA
NTA
Your son's teacher is a hideous snake. She knew exactly what she was doing and it was intentional.
In your shoes, I would seriously consider filing a formal complaint about her comment.
None of her effing business. I would 100% report her to the school administration and the school board.
NTA If you care, look on Amazon for backdrops and find something interesting. Another option would be to get something like maybe a white plastic tablecloth and have hour child decorate it himself.
Another option would be to put something interesting on the shelf daily that would attract the kids and change it frequently.
NTA. I’d be calling the principal and having a chat.
It worries me what she’s saying to the kids that don’t have a parent sitting next to them
Absolutely not. During the online school days of COVID I had custody of my two teen nephews and their adult sisters also lived with us. My sister made very poor decisions about the people she exposed her children to and her last husband made my younger nephew so anxious that he developed a stutter. The stutter went away completely when he came to live with me. One day while I was at work he was in a zoom class and my niece heard an angry man's voice and her brother reverting to the stutter. She did what you did, stepped in and told the teacher that we don't speak to him in that way and it's not okay for him to either. I ended up pulling him out of the class.
You showed your son two very important things. That authority figures are not always right and that it's okay to advocate for yourself when they treat you poorly. Good job Mom!
No fuck that teacher. Kids don’t forget things like that. I’ll never forget my 6th grade teacher shuffling through a project I worked really hard on and commenting in front of the entire classroom that it reeked of cigarette smoke and my home must smell too. It was humiliating. I’ll also never forget my dad (who was also a teacher) storming in there the next day and ripping her a new asshole in front of the principal. You did well in speaking up. Your child will remember that. NTA
"OH yeah, maybe you should put on some makeup, get your hair done and get some clothes that look more appropriate if you are a teacher - it's distracting"
I think it's possible that the teacher did mean it as a well meaning technical suggestion. But your response was completely understandable, and as soon as you gave it, the teacher should have realized how her comment could have been received and apologized and clarified herself.
On top of that, talking to your son in the moment just wasn't an effective way to address the situation. A note to you showing how to change the background, and an explanation that plan backgrounds are easier on viewers, would have been much more effective.
NTA teacher was out of line.
F that B. If she needed the kids to be in a "quiet" not distracting spot she needs to get off her lazy ass and email the parents. Hell, she can still remain on her lazy ass and let the parents know that a blank canvas behind the kids is an ideal spot for not distracting the other students. What a piece of mangled asshole.
Report her.
ETA: Oh, yeah! NTA! Awesome move, mom, confronting her from the beginning.
Document, document, document, clinically (date, time, event, outcome) and report. If the principal doesn't do anything, escalate.
NTA but anytime a camera is going to be in use, you should be aware of the background. kids are vicious and apparently teachers.
its not too hard to tack up a clean plain sheet to drape down behind him.
NTA report that shit that's not okay
NTA, not an overreaction. Your spouse sounds exhausting if having professional and personal boundaries is 'an overreaction.'
That teacher crossed a boundary by 'advising' their personal opinion on something that was not necessary to comment about in a public class platform, as they had done.
I have a deep hatred for micromanagers, let alone micromanagers that feel its necessary to point out every little blip of an annoyance. If it was THAT distracting, Teacher Dearest should have requested a parent contact them through appropriate channels.
NTA. I’m absolutely aghast at this teacher’s behaviour. What an unprofessional jerk. You were right to call her out for it.
I’m a classroom teacher who has also had a fair amount of experience with online teaching, and I would never think of commenting on a student’s home setup unless maybe it was something I especially liked—or their pet or a sibling was about to knock down something that looked fragile. And frankly, if a teacher finds a setting like that to be distracting, they’re not much of a teacher. I’ve successfully taught students who were at restaurants, in supermarkets shopping with their parents, on the train or in a car, walking through a park, and (on one memorable occasion) in the audience at a soccer game. A shelf with a fan and a few cans is nothing.
NTA. Why on earth would a child's background for an online class have any bearing on anything at all? Like, unless there were flashing lights and loud noises, who could possibly be so distracted by the background that it would impact their ability to teach or follow the class?
You should always use a virtual background for online schooling - for the safety of your family and the other kids.
No one should be seeing the inside of your home or other family members.
Sorry you experienced that. My twins were in online school from first grade until graduation from 12th grade, at age 16. We found it to be a great fit for our family. In the entire time, I had a single negative interaction with a teacher. I brought it up with the principal, it was resolved next day.
Hang in there, one day the nonsense will be a memory and your son will be in college. Good Luck. 👍🏽
Nta she could have privately asked that the background be blurred or that he finds a blank wall if that was actually a problem
NTA
100% did not overreact that was plain RUDE.
You are a great mother and nta, I remember when a teacher of mine insulted me because my family was not traditional, my mother defended me and I will be eternally grateful to her.
NTA that was a completely unnecessary comment she made. What does his background have to do with anything? She sounds like a real asshole and I’d complain to the principal. Shaming a fucking 6yo, Jesus Christ wtf is wrong with people. And a teacher, of all people.
Fake
why is your 6 year old on online class?
The problem is in the first sentence. wtf is a 6yo doing in an online course? If he can’t sit by himself he’s too young for that.
Nope, the teacher needs to be called out. Whether intentional or not she did a public shaming. I would insist she be fired, or moved to a different school.
Fired for a single, possibly unintentionally rude comment? Dude what? Why is it always the fucking nuclear option? The kid will forget about this in a week.
It sounds like she just said his background was distracting.
She wasn't calling you poor or whatever you took as an insult.
Next time read the rules about backgrounds for online learning, see what you need to do
The teacher was rude and shaming. There is no way around that. Her reaction of "I wasn't shaming anyone I was just making a suggestion" was a rude way to response instead of apologizing. A complaint to the principle is in order here. I come from a family of educators and this teacher's behavior was highly inappropriate.
If there was a rule about backgrounds, then the teacher should have addressed it with the OP outside of the learning session, not in front of all of the other students.
"your background is distracting and cluttered. Maybe change it"
How is that shaming someone?
If there is a rule about backgrounds then OP should already know it because she should have reviewed all the rules.
Letting a kid be in an inappropriate place for learning for a day so you can address it later with parents isn't super effective. The way the teacher did it was kind of dumb, but it wasn't some personal, judgmental insult in my opinion.
Because, get this, the background does .. not .. matter. Just because the teacher doesn’t like clutter does .. not .. matter. If you have to ask then you’ll never understand it. Just because it’s “cluttered” to you doesn’t mean it’s an inappropriate place. It’s the kids house. Teacher can kick rocks.
I'm sorry, you don't think what's going on around a kid impacts their learning?
The background isn't some photograph, it's his house. If it's distracting to other students I can only imagine how bad it is for the student sitting in it
You think a shelf that's BEHIND the child while they're learning is distracting from his learning experience?
Elaborate.
The school doesn't get to dictate the background of a student when conducting online learning.
Making a 6 year old feel bad for their house being cluttered is unnecessary, definitely insulting and has nothing to do with educating children. Teacher needs to do her job and mind her business.
How is saying your background is cluttered and distracting in any way, shape, or form "shaming" a child.
Is telling a kid their shoe is untied and they should fix it shaming them too? I really don't get this
Her job is to make sure the kids are in a good learning environment. That's what she was doing.
Her job is to teach. Not give interior decoration tips.
No, her job is to teach children whatever is in the curriculum for them to be taught. A 6 year old has no control of their setting, that’s up to the parents. She had an issue with something the parents are doing and, instead of addressing it with them, she embarrassed a very young child who could do nothing about it in front of an entire class. It’s inappropriate.
Absolutely. This comment was super dense and lacking basic logic.
Canned goods and a wall fan aren’t that distracting. I’ve seen so many worse backgrounds during online classes without anyone having a problem. Plus, even if it were genuinely distracting, you don’t bring it up in front of the entire class of six year olds—you talk to the parent separately.
1) use your words, not AI for comments
2) you don't think a busted fan and canned goods would distract 6 year olds? Have you met them? Lol it's also possible it was something else, like the kid routinely looking off screen at his mom
I didn’t use AI, so it’s concerning how quickly you assumed that based on such a short comment. Do you think every comment with an m dash is AI?
I used to teach 4–6 year olds, and children that age can be distracted by a lot of things…but unless the teacher is requiring every kid have a blank white wall behind them (which doesn’t seem to be the case), it’s unreasonable to single them out as uniquely distracting just for that when there are likely other backgrounds with home details that could interest kids.
And unless OP completely changed the entire story, it’s clear the teacher was pointing out the background and clutter, not the kid glancing around.
I can't imagine teaching for 8 hours a day 5 days a week and never ever saying anything dumb or clumsy. I'd let it go. NAH
One, yes you embarrassed your kid and most parents today seem to forget what being a kid was like but i still don't think you're an asshole in this instance. That teacher crossed a line. But also maybe your kid is shy because he's watched all the time? This helicopter shit isn't helping kids and their societal interactions at all. At 6 my mom taught me how to ride a bike and i was gone. At first pretty well monitored but within a year I made friends that I still have today 45 years later. None of us even knew what our friends parents even looked like til maybe high school. If he has a soft landing with you 24/7 he won't make lasting friends and that's a damn shame for a kid - especially a boy.
...my parents literally knew the parents of all my friends and met them at least once if I was going to be going to their house or vice versa. I'm 36. The same was true of my older brother, now in his 40s.
At least until the late teens, anyway.
Nope, I would have been a lot meaner.
NTA. That was beyond rude, especially since this is a 6 year old. It's not like he's 16 in his messy bedroom (not that that is okay either imo). It was directed at you but it was also going to hurt him. Mess all around.
NTA! You were far nicer than I would have been. There is no reason to say something like that in front of everyone except to mock/shame/belittle your child/family.
Nah, that's shaming someone, whether she acknowledges it or not. I would make a report to whoever she reports to (I'm assuming a principal)
Real educators don’t inflate their own ego by undermining children with passive aggressive BS like that. NTA. You were right to say and I’m glad you were there to hear it. She needs to be reported. I’d be LIVID.
NTA. She's allowed to be out of line, but you can't correct her?!!? oh, please.
Also, if she has a problem with your son being able to stay focused, she needs to have that conversation privately with the parents, not publicly with the child.
NAH. It would have been better if the teacher had sent it as an email to you privately, but you're definitely taking it to mean more than it does. The request is simply that since you don't have a plain space available for your child to sit in for class, you change the background so it isn't so distracting. People are drawn to backgrounds with more stuff in them, that's all.
on the face of it- the teacher was an ass. but i have to wonder if there weren't written instruction regarding this. a plain background can be achieved with a sheet or tech embedded into most video call software. if there had been clear instruction you're the ass.
I agree. Wouldn’t the teacher point out there were rules instead of being condescending to start, though? Just say something like “Could we please use the background that is in the instruction” next time. Instead, and it’s taking all of this at face value, they just asked and it wasn’t a polite request.
That's something you approach the parents about privately, not confront the child about in front of the entire class.
NTA. the only one embarrassed was likely the teacher. She thought she could get away with her little comment because he’s 6 but she thought wrong. ALWAYS advocate for your child.
I’d be meeting with that teacher and the school staff immediately. If that wasn’t solved I’d take things into my own hands.
ESH. What she did was awful, but your response just makes you look bad. File a formal complaint with the principal.
Make a complaint about the teacher
She’s a jerk op, I’m proud of what you said. You were absolutely correct. And there is nothing wrong with the set up as you’ve described it. Real people have real homes and those homes have stuff in them. Your son is lucky to have such a caring and attuned parent as yourself.
NTA. I have a significant amount of online teaching and this comment was just rude.
Just use dynamic backgrounds each time if you can. Volcano, sky diving, space.
Nta
Call the school and report it.
There's a shelf with canned goods in the living room?
NTA, but I am curious: why is your six-year-old in an online class in 2025?
NTA but is it possible for you to put him facing a corner less distracting? This stuff does cross people’s minds and can set him up for bullying. Can you find a more suitable space for canned goods that’s not in a living room?
As someone who was bullied by my teacher when I was 6, DO NOT LET THIS GO. And keep an eye on your kids for signs of anxiety. I doubt this is the first and only time this teacher has bullied the students.
The people in the comments telling you to get the teacher fired or that your child was being bullied are going a bit far. A moving fan in a video call can be surprisingly distracting to people.
While this teacher’s phrasing wasn’t ideal, this feels like projection on your part. Was your six year old really embarrassed by a mild suggestion from a teacher, or did you feel your face go hot because you interpreted it as a judgmental comment about your living situation from a teacher you clearly dislike?
It sounds like you’re insecure about your home and being judged for it. I have trouble believing that this teacher was trying to “act better than” their classroom of 6th graders by suggesting a plainer background for your child.
NAH
That was the teacher massively overstepping.
NTA
You were not out of line but my guess is that the teacher was probably not the only one who was/is seeing your setup and was most likely aproached by a 'well wishing' parent to intervene. If this is the case, then she tackled the issue completely wrong. It should have been done in privacy without your child listening (and the rest of the class)
When I taught online I was lucky to get a kid on screen. I cannot imagine focusing on a background to the point of saying anything about it. That is just weird.
NTA Report her. If you take her at face value then a woman that easily distracted shouldn’t be responsible for multiple small children.
How come you are still doing online classes
NTA. Email the principal and let them know what the teacher said.
"Cluttered" means there too much in the video. It does not mean your house is messy. They want a plain background to minimize distractions.
Just use the virtual background.
If this is something that really happened, on the surface it sounds pretty bad. This karma rage type of post will surely get a lot of support. I don’t need to join the chorus.
Was there something else that happened before this part? Was the wording exactly as you stated?
I didn’t observe so I can’t tell the tone, but stuff to look at in the background when doing online meetings can indeed be distracting. Even for adults. Clutter is very distracting and that is why there are background images.
The cluttered comment seems unnecessary, and possibly a rude insult, but maybe the teacher had concerns about the environment being suitable for active learning. I think it would be fine to push back on that comment if you felt it was rude, but it is not the mountain to die on. Blowing up over that doesn’t teach your kid how to handle real life.
Undermining a teacher is also not a good trait to teach kids. It would be interesting to hear the other side of the story if this happened.
Online schooling requires a learning environment. Not just a table and laptop. Perhaps there are guidelines for parents and students that were not followed.
I’m so sorry your little boy was made to feel like that. This makes me mad for you because this is a 6 year old that doesn’t care about backgrounds and BS. You’re there to teach not to offer home decor suggestions. If she really thought that was distracting she should have called and talk to you about it in a kind manner. You absolutely are NTA ! You did not make it worse and you need to call her boss and talk about it. She needs a lesson in kindness which is sad because she should be the one who teaches kindness.
NTA.
If those classes are recorded send it to the administrators at school. Let them decide if it was as judgmental as the rest of us can plainly see
Yeah, I wouldn't let that go. Principal involved, possibly changing teachers, I would have lost it. NTA at all, and good job not driving to the teachers residence and beating the crap out of them.
It is hard to model social skills for your students when you clearly don't have any.
NTA. She needs to spend more time concentrating on teaching the children instead of looking at their house in the background. Lots of people have to carve out areas in existing spaces for online learning that's quiet and away from foot traffic around the house. She was rude and you pointed it out.
Who still does on line classes?
You stood up for your kid in a situation that called for it, sometimes classrooms need real-life lessons in empathy.
NTA
You didn’t have something wildly inappropriate or distracting in the background.
Any concerns should have been addressed directly to you. “Mrs. Smith? I’m going to email you about a concern I have.” Or just emailed.
The teacher was publicly shaming you and your 6 year old in front of a class of 6 year olds for a janky fan and a shelf of nonperishables?? Not cool…
NAH, but the teacher is. Embarrassing kids in front of their peers is toxic behavior.
You didn’t consider his background at all? Surely you have one plain wall you could have used?
NTA. I don’t think sometimes that men understand when a mean girl is being mean because they haven’t experienced it. They don’t see the passive aggressive bs. The hurtful things being said in the name of “helpful suggestions”. No. She’s being mean and judgmental. In front of everyone. That is shaming. If it was truly a distraction, she could have said something to you privately. It’s not something that needs to be pointed out in front of everyone. That is just being cruel because she has the power to do so.
Not only are you NTAH, but this is worthy of a call to the principal. I think being called out & shamed far more distracting than some shelves with stuff on them.
You weren’t out of line and I would escalate it, quite frankly. NOR. What an unkind comment she made 😒
Who is still having online classes for school?
NTA - teacher had no right to say anything like that.
That is ridiculously inappropriate to ask a 6 year old to adjust his interior decor.
Complain to the teacher's boss. Formally. Nta.
You did not overreact. The teacher overstepped. I would complain to the principal about it. Dont let it slide, while I understand some teachers go through burnout, this was unprofessional and uncalled for.
Change your background to say "ms. ______ hates poor people." Make a new one everyday and have fun.
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you did just fine
Why tf did she feel the need to comment on the background? If she’s so easily distracted she shouldn’t be a teacher. Shes a bully. Submit a complaint about her now, she has no place in the education system.
NTA and you need to go over her head, as high as you need to. That's unacceptable. Period.
EDIT: If there is a school policy about backgrounds, she is still a massive ahole. Ya don't shame people in front of others like that.
The correct thing to do, if that's the case, is talk to you privately.
Report the teacher. Just like an in person class.
NTA. You were considerably more polite than I would've been. An elitist has no business teaching. She was bullying your child. Bare them claws, Mama Bear!
NTA! You're a great mom! Good for you for speaking up, maybe she'll think twice before she opens her yap to shame someone. You also gave those students a teaching moment - they will be thinking carefully about what they say to others, and they also know what a good mom does!
Oh no, you go mama! I would have said so much worse. Kudos to you for keeping your cool.
Nta. You didn't embarrass him. He's 6, and he probably won't remember the interaction when he's older. But you know who will that freaking rude ass teacher will. There is nothing wrong with your setup. Counters are for putting stuff on. It doesn't sound like you're a hoarder it soylunds like you have a house with a small kid in it.
NTA. That was an obnoxious and hurtful thing for the teacher to say.
NTA - “I suggest you think before you speak!”
NTA, and I’m proud of you for saying the right thing in the moment. I would follow up with a short note to her saying your son felt shamed.
NTA. That teacher is a mess.
NTA. I spent time in the teaching profession. Even if the teacher "meant well" (I doubt it here), then a more appropriate way to put it would have been through a general announcement to all the kids in the class, "Oh, and in the future, I would like to remind everyone to make sure their backgrounds are blurred. Thank you!"
Honestly, I would have spoken to her in conference with the principal rather than say anything there. You didn't go too far and you were caught off guard.
You can still talk to her (with the Principal there). It's not too late. She was out of line because if this were truly distracting she could have said something just to you and NOT in front of the class.
It is possible that your insecurity makes her look more smuggish than she is. I'm not saying that is true, only that it's something to consider in your own mind before going into the conference.
NTA even though it could have been handled better.
This from a woman to told a teacher that I, with my college degree, would have failed this teachers class. You did better, I just learned the hard way.
Definitely not too sensitive. I’d be at the school asking a formal complaint. I would take it as far as I could!!!
Report her. Don’t let your people pleasing husband brush this under the rug. It deserves to be documented that she has a bias against your child for whatever reason. He probably isn’t the first and will not be the last.
NTA. You didn't blow up enough honestly.
NTA that teacher was incredibly rude for that especially in front of the class
Nah the teacher is TAH 100%.
Nta
nah you weren’t outta line. she said that with her whole chest in front of a kid, like?? you defended your son and set a boundary. if anything, you taught him not to let people talk down on him. good parenting tbh.
Thank you, that means a lot. I just couldn't let it slide in front of my kid..
Why didn’t you report her? What else is she saying when you or another adult isn’t around? She will do it again cause in her mind she didn’t do anything wrong even after you called her out. REPORT HER.
Yes. Report her.
NTA- question though, why is his class online?
Online school sounds like such a wretched little life for a 6yo.
My mom's a first grade teacher. Let me tell you, first graders did horribly during the pandemic when everyone was online. Kids that age do not know enough about reading, writing, and technology to succeed in online classes unless their parent sits with them all day, every day.
Mom of a kid who did first grade online during the pandemic. I sat in there every day and it was miserable for both of us. She refers to it as “the year you were mean”.
The district and her teachers put so much work into the lesson plans, and I was determined to take the whole endeavor seriously out of respect for them, but I finally lightened up on expectations when I realized I was about to torch our whole relationship over penmanship.
Can confirm!!! I sat with my kid for almost the entire duration of pandemic school. When I left the room he didn’t pay attention or know what was going on.
Or maybe we don't judge circumstances without fully knowing them?
And yet, Alaskan kids have gone to virtual school (before computers it was via radio) for decades. We don't know if this kid was sick, we don't know if he's had surgery, or lives very remote.
And homeschooled kids who spend their days joyfully riding horses in the sunshine and reading on the porch, and painting pictures of ducks and not being subjected to the clusterfuck that was COVID schooling but still taking the occasional online class also exist.
Point being, we don't know. The topic here is a shitty teacher. Stick to it.
There could be many reasons. Budget cuts, work on the school/classrooms, it being summer school so they're saving money not having to use the air conditioner during a really hot time of year, all sorts of things. I know some of the schools I went to growing up would have switched to virtual during the summer if it were an option!
Because it’s fake
Because. It’s. Fake.
Online school is huge where I live. It's state-run public school.
the post or the class?
Both
All of it
Yep! There's a pattern of posts by randomly generated username accounts where they post, make a single comment right after it's posted saying something extremely generic, and then don't reply again.
Well done.
Every once in a while we have to do something that is uncomfortable but the right thing, for our children. This is one of those times.
Make a second comment if you're a real person.
Your husband is wrong. She's a creep. Good for you for not taking it.
My bully in school was my teacher. She was evil personified. It's people like you the give us all some hope.
You are letting it slide if you don't report her. Were you in frame, or did the bully assume there was no adult witnesses, because this is who she is
Not only were you right to call that out, but shaming a kid's home like that is something teachers are explicitly trained not to do AND forbidden to do, at least anywhere in the US I've worked in a classroom. You under-reacted, and I think this really needs to be brought up with her school administration.
You absolutely took the high road. And were a wonderful example to your child.
I would have gone much, much, lower, and been a horrible example, but would have had a great story to tell.
Let’s see: new account with one post, kid randomly in school in early July, online school in 2025 when that’s largely been phased out especially in elementary school. Fake as hell!
Not everyone is in the US, and there are many different educational modalities. Online schooling for summer school is not abnormal.
The whole world doesn't have the same school year.
Remote places where online, or even radio school, exists.
I wish I could have had radio school.
Yeah, if it were just that one yellow/orange flag, that'd be one thing.
But it's the totality of the circumstances.
We've had a lot more of this karma-farming from new/bot/AI accounts lately.
Can't know for 100% certain if that's the case here, to be sure.
But on the whole, it's happening more and more.
And it's completely fucking annoying. The "entitled" subs are the worst.
There’s year round schools that just started the new school year. Chill out.
Sure believe any old obviously recycled crap from the pandemic you read on Reddit in a sub rife with fake stories.
Then why are you here, engaging with it?
To get attention for complaining about attention seeking.
I live in a city, in the US, AZ to be specific, where there is year-round school, trimesters with 4 week breaks in between. Online is a common choice here, too. Home schooling is not just mommy pretending to teach calculus.
Neither of my kids have finished the school year yet. They still have 2 weeks left till the summer holidays. While both mine attend in person, there are a LOT of schools round here that have hybrid or partial online learning for some students due to one reason or another. Usually individual learning needs and educational healthcare plans. It's something thats become more widely utilised due to the benefits seen during the pandemic for those who struggled with being in classrooms
Then good job driving engagement for the karma farmer that much higher! Well done!
If you think it's fake report it to the mods instead of hopping in the comments to tell other commenters how dumb and gullible you think they are.
In the UK, kids don't break up till the last week in July.
We're already on holiday here in Scotland:/
It's the middle of the school year for half the world.
Wrong. My son goes to online school. It's more common since covid and they have different term dates.
Get a fucking life. Do you have nothing better to do than blame posters for being “fake”?
All three of my kids in the US do an online school.
What’s odd about kids being in school in July 😭 I’m so stumped on that point lol
Not just in front of the kid, in front of his peers. When kids see an adult be cruel to a child it just gives them more of a green light to do the same.
I would be contacting her boss and not letting this go.
Agree - what a BITCH!