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What’s something your ex said that still haunts you?

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Drxning

“Your sister was better”

13 hours ago
TecN9ne

"I don't have a sister that was my brother in a wig."

8 hours ago
Sydtron69

HER SISTER WAS A WITCH!

6 hours ago
shrimpdlk

She came down in a bubble doug, grow up bro, grow up.

3 hours ago
grumpy__g

Damn… did you know that he was with your sister?

8 hours ago
Drxning

I had no idea until they (my sister and ex) told me about it the next day

7 hours ago
HHSquad

Wow, sounds pretty screwed up......I hope you guys are good now

But I guess not since it still haunts you

7 hours ago
redravenkitty

“You need to start lotioning your chest and neck because you’re starting to get wrinkles. I’m only telling you because if I was you, I’d want to know. People will notice and I’d be embarrassed if I was you.” I was 24 years old without a wrinkle in sight. He was heavily overweight and covered in stretch marks.

Another time I told him he wasn’t being a very good person. He said, “You say that like you think I’m trying to be.”

I’m so glad I left.

11 hours ago
Hererabb

He sounds like a neckbeard lmao

6 hours ago
SleepyCupcakeDreams

Yeah my most abusive was the most overweight and cruel I guess he hated himself so he wanted me to hate myself too.

6 hours ago
redravenkitty

I’m sorry 😞

5 hours ago
SleepyCupcakeDreams

Thank you. He is thankfully dead, you know you hate someone if you smile finding out they died. Happy Cake Day. He really put me through the wringer.

5 hours ago
vomputer

Congrats and happy cake day!!

6 hours ago
sneakysnake445

"Who's gonna marry you now? What does your life even look like without me?"

A hell of a lot better, I'm happy to say.

12 hours ago
doglywolf

What that say about them too? So wait you see the person your with as worthless to other...then why the hell were you with them...

Ive had a few girls put me down during break ups over the years and say some mean shit and some of it even before the break up and my only thought was ..wait im so bad then why hell are you with me.

One i even broke up after she said some pretty horrible shit and then later called to apologize and want to "work things out"

Your telling me im worthless in one breath or no one else will want me , but you did and ill find another that does. It how manipulative people keep you in control - get you to doubt your own self worth , so your more grateful for them or if not grateful affraid to leave .

Always always always be with a partner that uplifts you

6 hours ago
Mart-of-Azeroth

I was 17(f). He said "You're not the type of girl men marry."

13 hours ago
HappyOrca2020

Oh he thought he was being hurtful?

A mere 17-year old girl is not the type of girl any man should be marrying.

12 hours ago
its_justme

Hindsight 20/20 but you coulda turned that one around on him pretty bad “I’m 17 no one is marrying me idiot LOL”

10 hours ago
chica_running01

I hope you die ( of my pancreatic tumours) Still haunts me how evil he looked as he said it

13 hours ago
nowcookingforone

I'm glad you're still with us

13 hours ago
OakoftheWildWoods

That is appalling. I hope that you are recovered now and I am glad that you are rid of him.

13 hours ago
Roxyleo83

What an a hole! Glad you kicked cancers ass

12 hours ago
OakoftheWildWoods

"You will love that baby more than me", this was about a week after finding out I was pregnant. He came out with a few other concerning comments over the next couple of weeks along with his escalating abusive behaviour. I left him when I was 3 months pregnant and never went back.

13 hours ago
its_justme

So he was right I guess. But not how he thought it would go down.

10 hours ago
OakoftheWildWoods

He was 100% correct, but not in the way that he hoped definitely.

10 hours ago
Litodidit

Easy to predict that future when you're an asshole lol.

10 hours ago
AggravatingSmile101

Ok, I get it, you just want to feel important in my life...

After 14 years of marriage.

13 hours ago
LunchNo6690

the nonchalant cold sentences are the worst to be honest.

For me it was her saying.

"Anyways i have to go play beer pong with my new friends i cant talk any longer" in a break up call ,that i would have expected to be emotional yet she couldnt have cared less. That was after multiple years of relationship.

it was so tone deaf.

9 hours ago
AggravatingSmile101

Absolutely, we were married almost 15 years, had 3 children, and it was a slap in the face even though I knew I was no longer important to her.

Hearing it cut like a knife.

Sorry you know that feeling, it sucks!

9 hours ago
LunchNo6690

Yeah the pure indifference is worse to me than anything nefarious. Theres something about the emotional indifference of someone you care about, that cuts way deeper than any hatred or mean comment could ever cut.

9 hours ago
craftymcsweep

Nah fam, I want to BE important in your life. 🙄😒

9 hours ago
Idi0t_King

Commented a joke answer as well, but here’s my real answer:

I’ve struggled with depression since childhood and, regrettably, had attempted to take my life as a teenager. In my early 20s I lived with a now ex girlfriend that knew about this. After our relationship soured, there was one night things seemed to be better. I came home from work, we hung out and had some drinks. Throughout the night I realized she was actively trying to get me very drunk. Suddenly, she dropped the facade of being in a good mood and tried to convince me to go for a drive by myself. She put my keys in my hand and tried to walk me to my car. I refused and she broke down in angry tears, absolutely begging me to kill myself. When she realized it wasn’t happening, she said, “it will happen one day. You can lie to yourself and say you’re better now, but one day you will end up a lump on the floor like you’ve always known you would.”

12 hours ago
LiquidEijs

what the fuck

10 hours ago
SpookyJones

WOW that’s fucked up. What an evil bitch!

8 hours ago
grumpy__g

Wow… you won. This is the most messed up thing of all.

8 hours ago
Idi0t_King

Yes, and I thought she was right, but six years later, so far, so good!

8 hours ago
dramboxf

Honestly, she sounds like a drama queen who wanted to be the gf of a boy that killed himself so she could get all the attention and sympathy.

5 hours ago
erdetbaremigeller

Huh, attempted murder. How about that.

5 hours ago
Overall-Aspect8026

dude. that is the most evil shit i’ve ever read. she’s gonna burn in hell, and i’m glad you’re doing better now! I know depression is a bitch to deal with, but at least you’re minus one bitch in your life!

4 hours ago
Electrical_Fig9565

“I can’t do this if you’re crying”

13 hours ago
SirKorgor

As a man, this comment makes me want to cry.

10 hours ago
Electrical_Fig9565

And it was while he was attempting the back door deed…(he was huge)

10 hours ago
OrcishWarhammer

what the fuck

10 hours ago
Electrical_Fig9565

It was why I broke up with him. We were fine before he made me attempt it but made it clear he needed it or else we would break up.

10 hours ago
Joebelievesinmagic

A blessing in disguise if you guys were fine until then. He showed he never cared about you and you saw the message

9 hours ago
DasRainbird

That got dark super fucking fast.....

6 hours ago
doglywolf

that last part is the killer right there - Im a fan of backdoor antics but sometimes you have to accept thing dont fit or people just dont like that and fine other ways. Its a huge red flag of how compleely selfish or self centered they were.

5 hours ago
Electrical_Fig9565

Sincerely, it feels good to have some validation about this bc I’ve been holding onto the way this went down for ten years. Thank you

4 hours ago
aurora-lite-brite

I’m sorry! How horrible! That sucks!

On more than one occasion my ex had said “I could tell that you were hurting, so I just hurried up and finished.” And once it went as far as me making noises of discomfort, so he stopped, looked at me, and said in a very mean tone “Is there a problem?” And then proceeded to yell at me for hurting. I used to have issues with intercourse… The act usually hurt. At this point we had been together for 15 yrs. So it wasn’t a new development.

8 hours ago
vomputer

Hugs my friend. I’m glad he’s an ex now.

6 hours ago
Unusual_Parsnip901

Kill yourself. She said it to me while in the middle of a mental breakdown over finding out she was cheating with her boss and gym partner. She then convinced me she never said that and i was crazy and that I needed to institutionalize myself. 3 months later, prescriptions I didnt need, and hundreds of hours of therapy later she admitted she lied cuz she felt bad after saying it. Thanks for the debt and the added trauma.

13 hours ago
MissSagitarius

Glad she's your ex. What a narcissistic POS.

9 hours ago
grumpy__g

She cheated with two guys and made you the crazy one? What a messed up person.

8 hours ago
UDntnomeudntEvncare

After enduring a long stretch of indifferent and insulting behavior, I asked him to say one nice thing about me. “You don’t sweat much for a fat girl.”

13 hours ago
HappyOrca2020

I was 25 years old I guess, and I was told that I am pretty good in bed for a big girl.

I was like 70 kgs back then and I am 5'8" tall. Fuck that.

12 hours ago
lionhearted333

Ah this just reminded me when my ex pointed out plus size clothes for me.. nothing wrong with being plus sized but I was on the low end of healthy weight for my height? And I had wicked body dysmorphia so I just accepted it as fine. Petition to yeet these people into the sun

10 hours ago
ThiccSchnitzel37

70 kg??? Thats not even much.

11 hours ago
HappyOrca2020

I was always conscious about my weight in that time, and that comment just made me feel like shit.

Heh at 36 now and two kids later, I'd love to be back at that weight.

8 hours ago
ThiccSchnitzel37

Oh my god

This is so incredibly evil.

11 hours ago
Negative_Lettuce2380

I guess maybe I don't love you anymore

14 hours ago
remygirljonty

he told me you‘re lowkey ugly when the sun hits you and I‘ve been self conscious about it ever since. My boyfriend now looks at me when the sun is in my face and tell‘s I‘m the most beautiful woman ever. I just wanna cry thinking about it.. but I did get a glow up so fuck him. He wouldn‘t stand a chance now lol I just took anybody back then so I don‘t even know why it’s still on my mind. 🥴

10 hours ago
grumpy__g

Listen, you were beautiful back then too. This guy just wanted to make you feel like shit.

8 hours ago
Neat_Statement_9036

"tbh your tits are quite small but don't worry they work for me"

"why are your nipples brown when you've got a bright face"

"I want to ruin you for everyone else so you end up with me"

"does your mood really matter? It's just a blowjob, you can be pissed at me and blow me at the same time"

"I am storing my ex's nudes cuz she's dating a guy who threatened me and I need ammo in case I need to fight him"

11 hours ago
Fine-Grass-1633

Jeez. Mine said “ah, I guess your tits will get bigger when you’re pregnant” and “I’ll put a baby in you someday don’t worry”. Oh and when I had a bloated stomach “are you pregnant or something? We can’t have that.” Aka calling me fat

11 hours ago
Novel_Fun_1503

Oh my god. This guy a monster.

9 hours ago
Dontfollahbackgirl

When I’m pissed, I bite.

9 hours ago
OverDaRambo

My twin died at 10 DAYS old. Ex. found out I had a twin, he said "I bet she was prettier than you."

10 hours ago
thundrcxnt

The face I just made reading that

10 hours ago
idplmal

Same

8 hours ago
Relax_Im_Hilarious

What. The. Fuck.

9 hours ago
grumpy__g

He crazy. He evil.

8 hours ago
curlyquinn02

That I would want him back.

13 hours ago
Throwaway-fpvda

LOL - after cheating on me multiple times, leaving, asking for a divorce (which I happily agreed to), when it was time to finalize the asset split, she said “I thought we’d work things out”.

11 hours ago
curlyquinn02

It's crazy how horrible people think they are the bees knees.

11 hours ago
GeneralNo2281

Do you?

12 hours ago
curlyquinn02

Nope. Towards the end, I was scared for my life and wondering what I was doing wrong. Why would I want to go back to an abusive monster?

12 hours ago
Hopefulforpeace

Can’t remember exactly what he said but it was along the lines of one day he would kill me, rape my dead body, and then stuff me to keep me forever. Definitely never forgot about that.

11 hours ago
boethius61

Yikes, that's a level of detail that hints at a scary level of premeditation. Might I recommend a restraining order, MMA classes, and a hand gun (not something is normally recommend).

10 hours ago
Hopefulforpeace

I did try and get a restraining order but I was told I didn’t have “sufficient evidence.” I was also 14 at the time and I think they took advantage of me being young and vulnerable.

I do have a handgun 😉

10 hours ago
NoDoOversInLife

Geezusfukkinkrist. Restraining order? That dude should have been given a permanent address in the landfill🤬

I'm sorry you were subjected to such vile behavior. I hope your life is safe, fulfilling and full of love

9 hours ago
BeardadTampa

My ex called me a child molester in court and said I would kill my children if they came to live with me. This was after she abducted the children, and I suspect her then boyfriend had SA’d my daughter. I walked out of the court with my kids after the child psychologist who had interviewed everyone said there was no evidence of me abusing the children, and he suspected that my ex would kill them if they went with her. The kids haven’t seen her since the day after the court hearing 10 years ago.

8 hours ago
Ok-Anywhere-9045

Maybe we could get back together when you’re older and the age difference doesn’t sound so bad 🙃

14 hours ago
Ellie_Loves_

Okay, ya gotta include the age difference though was it as crazy as this comment made it sound?

13 hours ago
Ok-Anywhere-9045

It was 10+ years

13 hours ago
Ellie_Loves_

Yiiiiiiiiiiiikes. And he had the audacity to essnetially say "not now, the age gap makes me look bad, wait until the judgdment dies down"? Glad theyre your ex.

13 hours ago
Roxyleo83

How old were you at the time?

12 hours ago
CanyonOfFoxes

Tbf if you compare a 20 and a 30 year old, the age gap of 10 years is 50% of the 20 year old’s life. If you wait until they’re 40 and 30, 10 years is now 30% of the 30 year old’s life. So a gap does shrink as far as life experience goes. Your ex could still be a crappy person though.

10 hours ago
Cro_Du

"You'll end up alone" I told her that it was my biggest fear and she threw it back at me at our last fight :) Hit really hard when it is said out loud rather than just thinking about it

13 hours ago
Sufficient_Drama_145

Ohh, I got this one, too, except he was more long-winded about it. He told me that in the future, he saw himself married with a family, but that I would be in my 30s, all alone with no family, probably drinking too much.

Then he followed it up with, "But I won't be happy, either. I'll always be wondering 'what if?'" as if he thought adding that on was...like...a way to make what he said less of an asshole thing to say.

11 hours ago
BerendeBracy

After 3 years of keeping my feelings for myself and imposing as emotionally immovable, I opened up to her and told her about my fears. She got drunk at the party the very next day, started a fight with me, threw a beer in my face and screamed it out loud so everyone there could hear it. I said farewell to any sign of emotional openness again.

10 hours ago
Grouchy_Payment8130

" I don't think you know how many different ways I can kill you."

13 hours ago
J_man_Da_Gawd

"Goes both ways buddy 🙂" would have been my response

11 hours ago
Grouchy_Payment8130

I wish I would've said that!! Left and filed a NCO the next day and never looked back. Haven't seen him in 5 years.

I've since changed jobs and he googled to find me last year. Emailed me through the school district website a year ago saying he was sorry and wanted to talk. No thank you. I never responded.

10 hours ago
J_man_Da_Gawd

Thanks for the apology but no thanks. Any person who throws around petty threats isn't worth your time.

9 hours ago
tindalos

“I don’t think you know what I put in your coffee this morning”.

10 hours ago
grumpy__g

This is frightening.

8 hours ago
BoobySlap_0506

It's not something that I think about or that hurts me today, but something shitty was "I'm a boob guy but I still love you anyway" (I have small boobs). Certainly ate away at my self esteem at the time though. 

12 hours ago
Raggedybabe

After I couldn’t keep forgiving him for cheating on me over and over he told me I had deserved being cheated on because I was such a bad partner and that I would get cheated on by anyone I ended up with.

13 hours ago
MrsFernandoAlonso

He was projecting big time

9 hours ago
NoResult3648 OP

“You were almost everything I wanted.” That “almost” hit hard.

13 hours ago
Dontfollahbackgirl

Clearly your ex was almost a decent human being.

9 hours ago
RandallDClark42

I was 19 at the time (M), my then wife was 19 also. We had been married at 18. Worked my ass off 60+ hours a week, I was making 13 an hour. she had a part time job making like 8 an hour. I was able to get a good deal on my first house, but had to work alot of hours to afford it and have anything extra. Anyways came home from work early one day, found her in bed with another dude. Honestly almost shot them both, but decided it wasn't worth it. Later on, when asked why she cheated, she told me "he has alot of money and works alot less hours". This effected me to my core. I learned everything I could about my trade, mastered everything I could. Became really good at all things mechanical, electrical, and welding. I'm now 33, married to a wonderful woman with 3 children. I'm currently a branch manager for a crane company, making 150K a year plus bonuses. My ex still works part time jobs, has had 3 husbands besides myself, and lives in our old house which is now beat up and run down (she got it in the divorce).

Edit: corrected spelling

11 hours ago
BathZealousideal1456

Good. For. You.

"That's the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone having a good fucking life." -Chuck Palahniuk

9 hours ago
DJinKC

Good living is the best revenge.

7 hours ago
TBZSPHERE

I like you but I don't love you 🫠🫠🫠

13 hours ago
Miserable-Comfort109

I hear and feel you. My boyfriend of 6 years came out with this statement yesterday. I feel hurt and angry 😡

5 hours ago
CraxisComet

“Your not a 10 but your the best i’ll get” This one haunts me to my core he was my first boyfriend, and this was brought up when he was stalker his “ideal girl” Sofia Diamond and I asked even if i didn’t look like her, did he still find me attractive.

13 hours ago
senter

Just remember those thoughts are entirely within his head and are his problem. You are 100% someone else's 10

9 hours ago
GrassAffectionate765

All the things he said about my phisique and personality. He was obsessed with the idea of making me diets and workout routines, with the excuse of "everyone must reach their best potential"

13 hours ago
Far_Pass_5356

same thing happened with me.

10 hours ago
bluez974

She told me I was too nice to her after I had just drove 6 fucking hours only to catch/ see her fucking some dude in his car in her dorm parking lot. WTF does that even mean? I still get angry about that cause it makes no fucking sense. Story below if you're interested.

I was out of town visiting family. She called me on Friday morning crying because she said she missed me,needed me and couldn't wait another week to see me. I got her to eventually calm down and I promised I would be back in a few days and she would get 100% of my time when I got back. Her crying stuck with me and I felt horrible about it so I grabbed a few things and hit the road to surprise her for the weekend. A six hour drive back and I went straight to her dorm on campus. My brother was hanging out with one of her friends so my plan was for them to get her to come out and I would surprise her, but she wasn't in her room and not answering her phone. I told them not to worry about it and I would catch her when she got back thinking she went to grab food or something. I parked in the back of the parking lot in a dark spot in front of her dorm so she wouldn't see my car when she came back. 15 mins or so go by and I see her car pulling into the parking lot. She always parked in the same spot or one close to it. This time she went to the other side of the parking lot and then a car pulled up and she hopped in and they pulled up one row in front of where I was. At this point I knew what it was but I was hoping I was wrong. I sat there for about 10 minutes telling myself it wasn't what it looked like before I got out and started walking toward the car. I could see pretty clearly that she was mostly naked in the backseat riding some dude. I stopped and just went back to my car. When they were finished he pulled up to the front of the dorm to drop her off, so I pulled up behind them just as they were leaning in for a kiss. She freaked out when she realized it was me and he jumped in his car and took off. I got out and sat on my hood and she tried to run up and hug me. I told her not to fucking touch me with her fresh dick holders and then I just ask her why. She starts the waterworks and says you treat me so well and you're too nice to me. I didn't let her say anything else and just got in my car and drove all the fucking way back.

10 hours ago
SpookyJones

Fresh dick holders. Gold. Sorry that happened to you.

8 hours ago
ThrowyMcThrowaway04
  1. I asked him why he didn't want to divorce thinking he'd say "because I love you" or something similar. He responded with "because nobody else will ever want me"

  2. When asked what he liked about me physically during couple's therapy, he took a long pause to think and he responded with "she's small so she's nice to hold" except he hated holding me because it always made him hot so I knew it was bullshit.

10 hours ago
Apart-Clothes-8970

The better question is who DIDN'T I cheat on you with.

13 hours ago
NegligentLadylove

damn dude that’s wild

9 hours ago
ikurumba

"My father who raped me and my ex boyfriend (who she wasn't over) abused me and they were more of a man than you.". I told her it wasn't gonna work out and that's what happened.

10 hours ago
Shahfluffers

"So what if I cheated on you? You're never gonna leave. I'm the best you'll ever get."

I did, in fact, leave. And every subsequent relationship has been infinitely better. The words still haunt me though.

8 hours ago
27_and_51

Not my ex, but his mom. I told her time after time that I have a tree nut allergy. Pistachios, almonds, walnuts, all of those. Any nut except peanut is dangerous for me. But everytime I was at her house, she somehow incorporated nuts into the meal. Nuts in the salad, almond flour breaded chicken… everytime. And then she would get mad at me for not eating. 🙃

9 hours ago
Willing-Self7486

I don’t really see myself having kids with you

13 hours ago
Molsx1

If I knew how much of a used slag you were, I’d never have got with you

13 hours ago
edythevixen

When my ex told me that maybe my coordination disability was just "all in my head"

It is... because of a cyst and surgeries...

11 hours ago
alongthewatchtower91

"We can never be more but we can never just be friends." Aka he wanted us to be FWB

"At the end of the day, you're the girl that guys meet right before they meet the one."

Said to me by the same ex, on and off for years. Last time he popped up looking to reconnect, I just sent him a photo of my engagement ring then blocked him. I'm now married to a guy that repeatedly calls me The One and the love of his life.

8 hours ago
Redflysoul

That my best quality is giving bj after a year of dating that’s all he could say

13 hours ago
spinosaaurus

I am glad he is an ex now

13 hours ago
Redflysoul

Yeah

13 hours ago
OakoftheWildWoods

He sounds gross!

13 hours ago
TBZSPHERE

that's awful :((

13 hours ago
No-Explorer9254

“Your mom didn’t even want you”……… I’m adopted..

10 hours ago
lemonade-princess

"My therapist said it's entirely normal that I have fantasies I want to act on about raping you while you're asleep"

Don't think I slept properly again until we broke up.

11 hours ago
grumpy__g

I would have informed his therapist about his reading fantasies.

8 hours ago
Mr_Femboy_Stretcher

She called Sam a simp for Frodo...

I genuinely wish her only the worst in life just for that.

13 hours ago
trascist_fig

What a fucked up thing to say.

13 hours ago
J_man_Da_Gawd

I called LOTR and The Hobbit stupid (even though I hadn't watch it) to my ex and he almost cried.

(After actually watching it, I would like to make a public apology for that statement)

11 hours ago
BathZealousideal1456

We accept your apology. If you read the books (including the silmarillion!!!), you will have reached full atonement.

9 hours ago
J_man_Da_Gawd

Oh I have read the books as well, then I watched the movies 😁 And I have a copy of The Silmarillion but haven't read it.

9 hours ago
HappyOrca2020

An ex called LOTR gay. Only homophobes call LOTR gay.

12 hours ago
its_justme

I mean they clearly slept together multiple times. “Share the load” ??? Come on it’s obvious. /s in case anyone who’s dumber than me reads this lol

10 hours ago
Turdtastic

“I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” She was sure as shit in love with my paycheck though.

8 hours ago
No-Association2617

I had a traumatic birth with my last baby( #4, all the same dad) . The day after we got home from the hospital he said he wished I had just died instead.

7 hours ago
Miserable-Comfort109

This is the worst thing I read today.

5 hours ago
Quirky-Albatross2220

"I wouldn't have gotten back with you if I had known you haven't gotten over it" his betrayal was immeasurable and traumatizing, wtf does he mean??

13 hours ago
sonia72quebec

He left me for a younger woman (after 18 years together): "You would like her, she reminds me of you."

11 hours ago
Vampyk1ss3s

“You really are the one before the one”

9 hours ago
LemonHydra

I never loved you.

12 hours ago
mechanicwannabee

After my Lyme disease doctor told us I could have no stress during extensive IV treatments. Advised husband to stay at home for awhile to help out instead of traveling with his job.......Next morning I'm told : " I thought I loved you. I loved my ex but don't think I've ever loved you. " 22 years together

11 hours ago
7thGenAuz

No man’s going to ever want to date you let alone fugg you by the time I’ve finished with your face.

10 hours ago
cwilson870

I was admitted to the hospital for a suicide attempt. I was only there 72 hours but she never visited of called and we had been together ten years at that point. She said "I was seeing what life would be like without you". Ill never be with someone who values me so little ever again

7 hours ago
needhalphere

You werent the same girl I fell for.

Maybe if he stood up for me on all the abuse his mum subjected me to, I wont be such a sad bitch by the end of our relationship. Jokes on him, he is now the sad bastard his mum always want him to be - always on leash tied to his mama. I dodged a major bullet when he tell mutual friends I am the one who got away.

13 hours ago
Own-Engineering1469

He said I’m just like my abusive father. Fucking asshole.

13 hours ago
Delicious-Hour-1761

You completely wasted 4 years of my life.

13 hours ago
SpookyJones

‘You were a one night stand that went too far.’ We were married. The guy had NO prospects before my no-standard having ass came along. Just because a guy doesn’t have much going on doesn’t mean he wants something different. You aren’t opening up a new life of love, companionship and prosperity for them. They were living the life they chose. Leave them where you find them.

8 hours ago
Guilty_Jellyfish8165

"I only told you those things to get you to marry me, I don't believe in any of it and won't fulfill any of those promises."

ON THE HONEYMOON!

Why? What was the point of the time, effort, and expense, of the courtship and wedding? We both knew we were gonna split up after that.

8 hours ago
GinaTRex

Not said- did. We were in Texas in the summer on some backroad highway- I am from the northeast so I am not sure if it’s all the same out there. There was a beagle dog walking down the road- clearly abandoned or lost. It was over 100 degrees and I could NOT get him to stop. He wouldn’t let me get the dog and he wouldn’t slow down enough for me to even jump out. I hate myself every day for not fighting harder. I still think about that dog. I hope something miraculous happened and he is ok. I hate that man.

7 hours ago
Complete-Culture8749

How horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.

6 hours ago
ageb4

I love you.

13 hours ago
bmo9999

“[Our daughter] is going to turn out just like you” in the worst way possible

12 hours ago
bustedandblack

“You are a miserable human being.” - one ex. Mostly a Situationship. I left him because our relationship was so toxic. He scribbled on the gift I gave him and put it in my mailbox with this message.

“Have you ever thought about shutting the fuck up for once?” - another ex. He hit me in the face during sex and we were arguing about it (again). He was like “I’m sorry - I thought you liked it” and I was like “well You should’ve fucking asked me” and that’s what he said in response.

10 hours ago
min4z1ka

when I was trying to get into a good school that required a difficult entrance exam, he said, "it’s just too hard. you can’t do it."

he just wanted to keep me stuck in his own misery

10 hours ago
Justanotherburner117

"Why are you always ruining my life?"

This was on our honeymoon. Safe to say it didn't last much longer after that.

9 hours ago
Icy_Gold_3866

I was sobbing about my mom being dead. He put a box of condoms in front of me asking if I'm in the mood....

7 hours ago
holb93

He once told me I was too fat to carry our children. So I lost 150lbs by divorcing him 💅🏼

5 hours ago
Bubbly_Mixture8659

“You’d be prettier if you slimmed down like me” I was 17, 5’3, and 120lbs.

10 hours ago
IToldYouIHeardBanjos

"unless a woman has looks or money, she doesn't have a chance for a happy life"

10 hours ago
Ok_Click1303

I was 14 f he was 17 m. He got away with 3 THREE! grape charges. And… he cheated on me with two 12 yos

8 hours ago
Kitchen-Put9694

“your body your choice. but i want nothing to do with it - you were on the pill for a reason”

The same guy who dumped me the day before a job interview but then decided to give me a key to his flat. I probably should have seen the massive red flag of where his previous partner tried to commit s**cide. But thankfully that train wreck is someone else’s problem and when my now husband found out I was pregnant - I couldn’t have felt more loved. ❤️

8 hours ago
VulcanHiccup4

When I found out he was cheating and asked him why, he explained that "if a girl like that could be interested in a guy like him" could I really blame him for being curious enough to end our 6 year marriage?

8 hours ago
buttercup_w_needles

When I tried to kiss him and he pushed me away, he laughed, "What? You really thought things would change after the wedding?"

He had a nasty habit of withdrawing affection to express his displeasure with something I did or didn't do. I had bought in totally to the whole "obedient wife" thing since the wedding, and thought for sure he would stop punishing me if I just kept him happy.

7 hours ago
Walrussl

Nothing. They're my ex. They may have said harsh things at the end but they don't get to live in my head rent free.

13 hours ago
Naive_OrangeGuy

After I caught her cheating she told me "You ruin everything." Another girl told me that "You're too much." when I was expressing my feelings about something.

11 hours ago
TheMuffingtonPost

We had just gotten back together, she cheats on me like a week or 2 later with her ex, I was out of town at the time and were on the phone and I’m just beside myself. She says to me “it’s okay, it’s okay, god will forgive me”. I can’t describe the rage I felt after hearing that, I lost it.

11 hours ago
Harlow08

“Yeah I could put you on a diet, you could lose 10 pounds”

“My back hurt a lot too when I was bigger”

I’m 5’3” and 125 pounds…

11 hours ago
Maleficent_S

After almost six years together, he told me that he doesn’t want to marry me or have children with me because he disagrees with my family's political beliefs (my family’s beliefs are not my own)

10 hours ago
Fiend--66

"I only dated you as a bucket list item"

10 hours ago
[deleted]

You were great, but the bar was low. You're still single because God is protecting other people from you.

Thanks, asshole. I'm sure the last 5 of us are the problem and not you.

10 hours ago
thundrcxnt

Two examples: Ex #1: "I liked it better when you were fat because no one else paid any attention to you."

I think about it any time my weight noticeably changes. Its a big ugly root in my self esteem issues.

Ex #2: "I dont want to be with you anymore but I dont know who will take care of me."

We divorced 6 years ago, shes blocked me on everything. I occasionally check public records to see if she's still alive. There was more than one occasion in our marriage where I was the only thing physically stopping her from killing herself.

10 hours ago
myboyoscarbean

"I'd be glad if my parents were dead, in a way you are lucky " Context I lost both parents to drugs before 13. Stayed in that too long

9 hours ago
Acceptable-Bullfrog1

I just don’t like you as a person. We were married for 12 years.

7 hours ago
fauxfault

when i fell into anorexia and told him „i even stopped eating nutella“ (it was my favorite food back then) and he replied with „good. it‘s better that way“ because he thought i was too fat (i was really thin already actually and barely eating). i was still at the point in my ED where i realised it was wrong to starve myself and that i should stop. him saying that it was good i stopped eating nutella just made me spiral because it confirmed that what i was doing to my body was good.

7 hours ago
potatolover_92

I was getting ready in the morning, listening to music & doing a silly dance whilst naked. She said 'I can't believe you're proud of your body.'

6 hours ago
foreverdownup

What a fucking asshole!!!!!

5 hours ago
Idi0t_King

“Can I offer you an egg in this trying time?”

12 hours ago
Ok-Thing-2222

You should smile more cause you look bitchy when you don't. (I was a shy person, not a bitch.--Ha ha, I always wondered if I should go around with a fake clown smile on my face 24-7.))

13 hours ago
Peenutbuttjellytime

You're just so trusting, followed by a chuckle.

I had found out about the extent of lying. I'll probably never know everything.

11 hours ago
jlaw9018

"I would have been happy if we were just a one night stand", after being together for over 2 years

10 hours ago
popejoan84

He told me to get a real job, I did have a real job, I just didn't make as much as he did.

10 hours ago
Lawduck195

My father passed away when I was 16. He was a severe alcoholic but his heart was made of pure gold. He put everyone before himself.

My ex was self proclaimed religious and was against anything cool, lol. No drinking or tattoos sex was rare and terrible, and she thought she was better than everyone. She really just suffered from anxiety and depression.

Several years after my father passed away, I threw around the idea of getting a picture of him tattooed on my back. I don’t remember exactly what she said, but I will never forget the way it made me feel. She asked me why I would get that alcoholics picture tattooed on my back. I was glad when that relationship was over. Bitch. And I got a huge picture of my dad tattooed on my back anyways.

6 hours ago
Smooth_Buffalo_2578

"If you try to leave right now...I will throw myself into the wall so hard I will break it and thrash myself. Then I will slam my head into the mirror and bleed all over this fucking house. Then im calling the cops and telling them you did all of this to me. Who are they going to believe You at 6'8" or me bloodied and broken in the corner sobbing through my blood at 5'2". Make your choice"

I still think about that situation sometimes.

6 hours ago
Glass_Driver1707

“My biggest regret is not cumming inside you”

Uh, okay. My biggest regret is ever letting you touch me in the first place

11 hours ago
The_Boy_Is_Odd

I had a suicide attempt in high school. Started dating this girl after graduating. She knew my history. Every time we fought she would throw it in my face that I was crazy because I had tried to kill myself. One day we were fighting and she brought it up again, so I grabbed a steak knife and said maybe I should kill myself. Her eyes narrowed and she hissed at me, "Do it." I put the knife down, walked away, and she screamed.

11 hours ago
FinaglingFox

Angrily: "it feels like you are missing something that every one else was taught" Later found out I got the tism

10 hours ago
ChickenFillet0308

“shame on u for thinking i’ll date someone like you”

10 hours ago
vmpirewthapaperroute

Pick up your stomach

10 hours ago
Debstar76

“You’ve got no filter and you’re embarrassing”

10 hours ago
KittyGodess99

I never loved you the way you loved me. Yeah, that one stayed

8 hours ago
Odimorsus

“You’re the only man who ever loved me and treated me right and I destroyed us.”

I just want her to get better and be okay, even happy without hoping we’ll get back together and that she won’t be abused again like her other exes…. 😞

8 hours ago
That_Hat_Isnt

She is softer and more feminine than you - gutted me. We were “best friends” before we dated…

7 hours ago
TheDrugsOfMeth

"let's have one last drink, for old times"

The drink had rat poison in it. I refused because it smelled weird and proceeded to leave. I called the police the second I got to my car and then afterwards her roommates to let them know what happened. She was found and taken to the hospital, no idea what happened to her after that other than I heard she went into psychiatric care. Her roommates let me know something I absolutely never needed to know after the fact when her room was getting cleaned out, she had a bunch of my stuff she had stolen in her closet, along with several old used condoms.

7 hours ago
earthbound00

“You know, there’s not a whole lot of people that would put up with this… you know that, right?”

He said that to me as I was in his arms, reeling from a panic attack. I unfortunately experienced CSA and have CPTSD because of it- and was not “fully” aware until my first IRL sexual experience. Terrifying. I was 15.

He was wrong, though. Apparently, a lot more people are willing to deal with it than you’d think. I’ve had a wonderful partner for 7 years this coming August, and we’ll be getting married in November. He has always known I experience panic attacks and struggle with a handful of disorders, and he loves me as I am. He has never once made me feel any kind of way because of my issues.

7 hours ago