Reconnecting with my Jehovah's Witness parents. That cult really does treat outsiders like trash, so they reconnected with me, dumped their debts and obligations on me while I was too young to know better, and then bailed.
I feel this on a personal level😔
It is so depressing this is a thing within Jehovah's Witness families. It is such a cult tactic
One of my best friends since we were kids jumped right into the cult and decided he had to cut off all communication with me since I wasn’t devoted to their faith.
Really should've lived a bit more during college.
Not dismissing your point.
But there are also many wish they’d’ve taken college more seriously.
I didn't do either Q_Q
Same.
I did both. Took me 7 years to graduate
Same. Had a blast.
Like me. The partying was such a waste. They aren’t even good stories. Just… waste.
As someone who regrets not living it up more during high school, but very much making up for it in college, I’m here to say that partying hard AND working hard in college and coming out successful can be done.
Same here, my parents didnt let me do ANYTHING in HS. I made up for it in college. I make close to 6 figures and own a home so I got that going for me.
Same. I had a girlfriend all 4 years and spent all my time with her. I wish I'd made more friends and lived it up a bit more.
Same. We're married now tho.
The duality of the college experience
Unless you've wasted that time doing nothing at all, trust me, feel blessed.
I wish i focussed more on getting ahead rather than partying aimlessly, it's never fulfilling at the end of the day.
Same! I got into college life as much as I could, but there wasn’t much where I was due to only going to small colleges and I wish I went to a large state school instead.
Don't miss the opportunity, live every moment of your life now, feel it and enjoy it
FWIW, I lived a lot during college….and then got kicked out lol.
Try living more now. It's not too late.
My dad closed his eyes for the last time and I didn’t have time to say goodbye. I never had a chance to say how much I love him. He was really good to me, shielding me from my narcissistic mother while keeping it together himself for my sake 🙁
I'm sorry for your loss, i can only imagine how difficult it must be to not have the chance to say your last goodbye. What exactly happened?
OP, please watch this short video. I never got to say goodbye to my father either, he was everything to me. But this video gave me such a comforting and peaceful perspective to reconcile similar emotions. I hope it speaks to you the same way.
Know very well that your father is always proud of you. Pray for him to be shown mercy.
Not leaving a relationship within the first year when I was aged 22, despite the (now extremely obvious) signs I should have. And then sticking around with the same person until I was almost 30.
Now 35, dating gets more difficult every year, and I’m less confident about ever finding someone long term. It feels like I’m 10 years behind, still going on first dates and even having to live with roommates in a very expensive city.
This is me. 18-27. It’s so hard to not dwell on the past and think where I could have been if I didn’t stay with him.
I’m sorry. It’s such a frustrating situation to be in isn’t it.
However I think it’s easy for us to assume that the ‘what could have been’ would have led to a better current situation. That automatically we would have met someone amazing and it would have been forever. In reality we could have found ourselves in a similar or even less happy situation than we are now.
Always believe in yourself
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Some days that’s easier, some days a lot more difficult!
My first daughter, I was 28 weeks pregnant and she didn’t move as often. I remember having a weird amount of anxiety and told my doctor wanting to be seen and they said “if you don’t feel anything in 24 hours then come in”
I wish I had just gone in when I felt the anxiety. By the time 24 hours passed she also was passed away. I obviously have no way to know if me going in when I had the gut feeling would have saved her, but now because I listened to the phone lady I’ll have to live with never knowing.
Additionally: we had our rainbow baby, a little girl. I regret not considering the waves of grief she would bring up being in my life. I regret not having a therapist for this time. I just really miss my first daughter. I don’t regret having a rainbow baby, I just regret thinking it would be all sunshine’s and rainbows when it’s really added a lot of complexity to my grief journey. (Again, don’t regret having a rainbow baby, just regret the lack of researching the negatives)
I made the mistake of listening to the telephone nurse to keep the child with 103 fever at home. We thankfully saved her after her febrile seizure. Second time I’m hearing the nurse oncall are clueless most of the time.
They have protocols they have to follow. The protocols are established from research that has been vetted and approved etc...a fever> 105 would warrant for a child to be seen, assuming there were no other symptoms. But part of the advice is to let moms know that the fever is not as concerning as their behavior. So even if a fever is 101F and the child is acting very ill you would have them seen. Not sure if the nurse missed other signs, but per protocols a child with a fever of 103 (no other symptoms) does not need to be seen as it can be managed at home with tylenol or ibuprofen. . Most viral infections will cause a fever for a few days ranging from 101-104 even with treatment.
And cold showers! Lots of them. We had a few scary fevers. Wet towels and cold showers saved them. They hated it.
Just so you know febrile seizures aren't dangerous to your child's brain in the same way an electric seizure could be. They are scary as heck for parents of course but definitely harmless. (Ex Paeds RN)
Some babies just more prone to them than others..always remember to strip off and cool babies with a fever. Many parents think they ate cold so wrap them up.. inadvertantly keeping them warmer. Its a tricky instinct to ignore when their toes are cold.
I really, really should not have let my parents sell their house.
They got spooked by the crash in 2010 and sold their beautiful, 3000 sq ft house at the absolute bottom of the market in San Diego County. Close enough to walk or bike to the beach in Carlsbad. They weren't at risk of losing their home but didn't want to be "trapped" in it because a bunch of people they knew in real estate were telling them the market was not going to bounce back for decades.
I was adamant it was a terrible idea to sell to rent, but backed off because they had more life experience and it was their house after all. Had I pressed a little more I know they would have stayed.
They now rent an apartment because they waited too long to get back in the market, largely because they actually lost money selling their house, and I feel like it utterly changed the course of their lives/our family's lives.
The house they bought for $300k in the 90s is now worth about $2 million. Now I get to watch my parents rot in an apartment with skyrocketing rent as most of their friends and family are out traveling and have vacation homes simply because they held. It is absolutely soul crushing to see. My mom told me she still occasionally cries herself to sleep over it. Their monthly payment was $1500 a month for a big house near the beach because they got in early, and now they are paying $3000 a month for a small apartment far from the beach. They just destroyed their lives and retirement all on a fear based whim.
I wish I’d convinced my mom to buy a house after she divorced my dad..
This one hits close to home. Two homes owned and two homes hastily sold in the last 15 years, and a near 0 chance of ever owning again.
Sometimes I wish I could beat some long term thinking into them but I can't and it'll be my issue soon enough.
Yep, that "it'll be my issue" hits home for me, as well.
From a totally selfish perspective, they have pretty much screwed me and my family down the line with this decision.
I will be the one looking out for them financially when they are older, as they won't have a major asset to either draw equity from or sell when they eventually need money for later life care. They will likely move in with me before that, once rent becomes unaffordable for them which is rapidly approaching (set to increase to $3300 at the end of their lease, and has been going up consistently each year). There won't be a massive influx of assets when they pass either, as all of my friends will be getting, whereas if they had held it would be a wealth engine as a paid off beach property we could rent out or, worst case, just sell. My kids are going to grow up thinking "only rich people get to live near the beach" and have no clue that could have been part of our family's reality had their grandparents just not made a totally illogical decision.
There are just so many implications to it, it sometimes stuns me to realize just how little they considered their actions. They had a once in history opportunity for the middle class, and they squandered it. All for nothing, too. There was absolutely 0 benefit. The worst part is interacting with them and seeing that they know they squandered it. That somehow is worse than them just being oblivious to the consequences. Just seeing your parents know they unwittingly screwed themselves and their descendants out of something that will never, ever be available to people like us again.
As a fairly new homeowner myself, what would have been bad about being "trapped" in a beautiful house near the beach? Am I missing something?
What’s wild, man, is that this is so unbelievably common too. My mom went through the same thing, albeit with way less value (150k → 350k), but still, an insane increase. She sold, and now she tells me every chance she gets how much she regrets it and wishes she would’ve just made me pay rent. I was young and wanted to move out anyway, so if she hadn’t sold the house, there’s a good chance I’d have left on my own within a couple of years. Her doing that and me staying might’ve bought her enough time to get it reappraised closer to its value now. Just an awful situation.
Redditor, I am sorry if this rubs it in, but may I ask for clarification: Am I correct in understanding that this was a paid-off-mortgage home? And they had no plans to move for work or family anytime soon but immediately went back to being renters anyway?
In the opposite direction...
My friends parents owned 2 houses, bought high, shortly before 2008, in nice neighborhoods, the dad overleveraged and bought way more house than they could afford, 08 happened, dad couldn't find work and they lost both houses at the bottom. The 2 parents and 5 kids all went to live in 1 bedroom at a relatives house, now they rent a home in the hood, they probably would've been fine if they just stuck to 1 house
Getting married.
Why?
Cause they turned out to be a liar and a gambler. What a mistake.
I turned down a surgery that would have prevented everything I'm going through now. That's pretty high up there.
My dad was in hospice for 2 weeks, he had stage 4 cancer and was spiraling down for 7 months. I was there every day with him. The day before he passed, my friend who is a RN came to visit, she told me to stay with him that night because his time was coming. I didn’t stay because I was scared, in denial and I didn’t want to lose him. I went home with my husband that evening.
The next morning, we were heading out to meet my mom for breakfast since it was Mother’s Day. On the way, I got a call from the hospice center letting me know he passed.
I should have listened to my friend. I should have stayed, I should have held his hand, I should have told him I loved him… there’s so much that I should have done. But again, I was scared and in denial. I regret it every day and it’s been 9 years since. My husband says I did everything right. He tells me that I said everything I could, but that timeframe is such a blur to me because of everything that was happening at the time.
I miss my dad.
Please forgive yourself. You did everything right. One day vs many days...id rather have company for 7 months vs 1 missed day.
Huge inevitable fall out with my brother which resulted in us not speaking for a few months. During which time he killed himself and I never got the chance to sort things out with him.
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Not buying a house when I was in grade school
Same. I should’ve bought 3 rental properties in California when I was in third grade
rn it's the immense, catastrophic series of failures that were involved in my partner looking for a job... my own career has had its share of shit too but i think it was more "diluted" and less obvious. we hit rock bottom with her trying to pursue her career sadly (although none of it was her fault, we just encountered 100% horrible people at all stages and positions)
Leaving my purse in the grocery cart for a few seconds while loading the car. I turned around and it was gone. It had a priceless gift from a departed, beloved family member in there 😞
Dating boys starting at too young of an age.
This is the story with most girls, though. Young girls think they are so smart and know everything. "I'll date guys a little older and be a big girl now."
Thankfully, I always dated people my age but I did not need a boyfriend in middle school. I should’ve spent more time studying but I was so convinced finding “true love” was more important.
The rope wasn't strong enough.
I don’t regret it, but I was young and not strong enough to tie it tight enough. So I passed out then fell and hit my head for a doubly bad headache when I came to.
It can’t get better if you’re not alive, but I certainly get the pragmatic allure of it. I still have a lot of bad days, but the good ones and things are worth it.
Letting her go
I'm living that right now. The single most selfless and painful thing that I've ever done.
Same. It was inevitable, we don't have the same priorities anymore, and he changed his mind about a pretty fundamental thing, but it's so hard to leave someone you still love and are attracted to. My other break-ups were easy and freeing but this one... It's rough. I wish you luck.
Yeah, I can't even think of another woman in a sexual way.
Same
My situation was strange because we had been together for several years. we didn't even argue, we were always happy, etc. one day I came from work, I thought we would watch a movie, and she looked me in the eyes and said she didn't love me anymore and was moving out
she left without a word
OP is responding to every post with fortune cookies apparently.
I was thinking OP was just AI
finish my college
You still can. Took me 9 years to finish my undergrad.
I should have graduated in 2010 and just finished my undergrad last August. I spent 14 years stressing daily and feeling like a failure. I still feel ashamed about what I did, but I’m starting to be able to feel proud of myself for facing my demons and not giving up.
I was about to comment this. It genuinely eats up at you over time, like the educational equivalent to FOMO.
If I had just taken the time to sit and study properly, if I had just asked for extra help, if I had just stopped playing games (League).
Wtf is this AI horoscope bot post?
Not agreeing to couples therapy with my ex, god damn I miss her
getting married
My marriage to an emotionally abusive alcoholic
There are a few. Most involve me being an absolute asshole and I deeply regret every single one of them. One that's totally different than this is not taking the oportunity to start my acting career earlier. Unfortunately, it is what it is, no point in living on "what ifs".
Trying to stop a quarry.
The townspeople didnt want it, and I suggested seeing if the land itself didnt hold historical value. So I started researching it. Within a day I had discovered that the farm the quarry was proposed to be built on used to be the headquarters of the "Reformers" prior to the Upper Canada Rebellion in 1837. That many historical figures had delivered important speeches there. Then I discovered who had owned the farm...the family of famous director James Cameron. He had spent every summer of his youth on his grandparents farm, that was now set to become a massive quarry. Turns out he named a character in Titanic after our town, Cal Hockley.
So I dug deeper. Turns out that in the cemetary next to the farm, where all the Camerons are buried, are 2 other graves next to the Camerons. Jack Dawson (the name of the main character of Titantic) and another grave of a family named TITANIC.
So at this point I know the Farm must have meant something to Cameron. So I reached out to him to tell him what was going on. I spoke with his management team, who understood the situation but relayed to me that Mr Cameron didnt want to be involved in stopping the quarry.
I didn't like that answer, so when Cameron came to Canada to pick up an award, I drove 6 hours to the award ceremony to protest it. Eventually Cameron left the building, saw me, read my sign about saving his family farm and his jaw dropped. He was ushered into an SUV and driven away, but at least I knew HE knew.
Id continue fighting against the quarry, and managed to get the Farmhouse saved, if not the farmland.
Id later get an DM from u/JimCameron saying they were aware of my actions and they were appreciated. Whether or not it was legit...
At the end or the day, the whole thing cost me my sanity. I became obsessed with saving this farm, that James Cameron was influenced by, but not enough to speak out. Its taken me a couple years now to realize, that all the coincidences and connections can't save the day.
I wish I'd never gotten involved in the first place.
I should have gotten my shit together in my late 20s, not my late 30s.
I’m just getting it together at 50. To paraphrase, “The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best is now.”. I should have saved money, I have rooms full of crap today me never used and I can imagine the value of that money had I saved or invested.
Also, if you have a401k, make sure it’s invested. Number one issue is people think it’s making bank but it’s sitting in cash earning maybe a dollar a year.
That one time little me thought she had to do and say certain things to fit in, and she did.
Not spending more time with my Mother before she passed away.
Letting exhusband back in my life, he made sure to ruin any existing trust in man and relationship or self confidence. I’m almost sure he made himself the purpose of break my heart in as many ways as possible
I grew up with 3 adults in the household, as one of my grandfather's brothers had some medical issues and lived with us. He was there before I was born, so in a way it was almost like I had 3 parents. The level of love I had for him was the same as my parents.
When I was a teenager we got into an argument over something stupid, mostly because I was teenaged asshole. It wasn't a big deal but we didn't speak for a few days, and during that time when we weren't really getting along he had a stroke and died a few days after that in the hospital. Supposedly he was doing well in the hospital and was due to be released, so my parents didn't take me, only for him to have unexpected issue that ultimately killed him.
I've always been haunted by the fact that one of our last interactions was an argument and that I didn't get a chance to tell him I loved him before he died. It has been thirty some years and even thinking about it nearly has the power to reduce me to tears.
If it’s any consolation, I suspect they were hurt at the argument, but knew the argument was minor and recoverable. I don’t think they thought you hated them. Older people have a better idea of what it’s like to be young and foolish, and they would have easily reconciled and been there for you again had they lived. But I understand the anguish of the questioning.
Not running away or accepting help from others emotionally wrecked me but I'm getting there now
I hope you are always strong
Not saying the right words to her in a difficult situation
Flunking out of college for a management job and wanting to have fun.
In a blink of an eye 10 years have gone by, I’m behind and starting now instead of having a full on career.
What happened is in the past. Focus now on developing yourself.
Daiting lol
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Getting addicted to Xanax. I'm clean now and have been for going on 14 years. But for 3 years I was severely addicted to Xanax, "four bars" in particular. I'd take a literal handful of them on a daily basis. Ruined many relationships, was homeless for a time, and also fucked my body up in numerous ways.
Getting in a fight with a bully and having my nose being hit, it's been a hell for not breathing correctly and not sleeping correctly for not breathing as it should, i don't have the budget for surgery so im stuck with this hell of a life where i can barely breath and barely sleep.
after my dad had a heart attack, he was rendered brain-dead and kept in the ICU for a few days. eventually, the doctors determined there was nothing they could do for him, so we took him off the ventilator and waited for him to pass. poor bastard was stubborn as ever, though, so he lasted a lot longer than we thought. morning rolled into night, and after awhile, i was so tired and frazzled that i decided to go home and get some sleep. my brother decided to stay with him, in case anything happened.
he died during the night. my brother had to be there, alone, to watch our father take his last breath, and i wasn't there to comfort him. when my brother started drinking again, i could only blame myself for not being there to support him...
Getting back together multiple times with my ex who first cheated on me then was emotionally abusive. Sabotaged my own mental health and missed out on many love opportunities because I was fixated on her for some reason. I'm well over her but looking back at it I can't help feeling like an idiot. I should've cut her off completely when she confessed to cheating.
Not buying bitcoin
I wasn't at home when my grandmother died. I was away on vacation and had a phone conversation with her the night she experienced a heart attack (she had recently received a pacemaker). She said she missed me and to return home. I laughed and reassured her that I would be back the next day (Had been away for 4 days by then but we were never separated before). Sadly, she passed away that night, and I never had the chance to embrace her again. She was like a mother to me, the most significant person in my life.
Losing her
Attending grad school, the first time. It was really a series of mistakes - choosing this specific grad school for shaky reasons, not deferring when they told me - two weeks before the semester started - that my prospective advisor had been sacked and consequently I no longer had funding, and the degree itself. I think the biggest regret was chosing a state school over Brown, partially because I was afraid that my working class background would make me stick out like a sore thumb.
I ended up dropping with a terminal MA, and then later getting an online MLS in data analytics. It was a much better choice in terms of career progression and stability, affordability, and sanity. I started in the spring of 2020, so the timing was perfect too.
Not getting bitcoin mining software working on my pc and giving up rather than spend another hour figuring it out.
Rejecting that girl who asked me to prom. I wonder how my life would have turned out if I said yes.
Hard to say. Swiping right on the wrong person is tempting since we got married and she cheated. Triggering a divorce, financial crisis and persistent mental health issues.
But the good times were the best of my life and I love our son to pieces.
It's so odd that a simple thumb swipe cascades into defining so much of your life.
Not necessarily one event, but staying in relationships for too long.
Prior to meeting my wife, my last two relationships lasted way longer than they should have. I wish I'd ended them as soon as I knew they weren't right, but I was a people pleaser who hated conflict.
Not being born sooner; i’ll now never be able to afford a home.
I wish I had stayed in high school, graduated, and went straight onto college. I should had been more worried about building a good future for myself
If I can share this to help anyone younger than me : never trust any boss you have, every promise should be a written contract.
I really should have not have gone with my sister to 7/11 one day when I was 15. A drunk driver ran a red light right into my side of the car trapping me. The TBI and injuries I received completely changed the trajectory of my life. I am in my mid thirties and am just now getting my degree and settling into a career.
believing that i *HAD* to go to college directly after graduating HS lest I be an education-less, job-less wench. now all I have is student loan debt for a degree I never wanted or finished
Qualifying for financial aid to go to college, choosing the max loan amount every semester, then quitting after a few semesters without even a basic degree to show for it.
In my defense I was very young, grew up super poor, and had the opportunity to get thousands of dollars by simply checking a box on a form. I regret it almost every day, lol
Not permanently crippling my first bully.
Ever getting with my kids dad
Going to college immediately after high school. Wish I had taken a couple of years off to figure myself out and just work. College ended up being a tumultuous and unsuccessful time. It is for sure my biggest regret in life, thus far.
If you have a 401k, make sure it’s invested. Number one issue is people think it’s making bank but it’s sitting in cash doing nothing.
I left mine sitting for a couple of years, and l know others who have done this, but when my father passed this year we found he hadn’t done anything with his 401k, it had been sitting for decades in cash. His funeral expenses, debts, and other issues would have easily been paid. Instead we’re going to be paying it off for a long time.
I regret listening to my incoming freshman "advisor" in college. They were supposed to help new students understand how college works and put them on a good path. In reality, they have so many students they have to churn through and so many different degrees/circumstances that they can't give good advice to anyone.
I ended up taking nothing but soul-crushing courses at a heavy workload, not knowing that I could drop courses or anything. I graduated high school with a 4.2 GPA ranked in the top 5% of my class, but I nearly completely failed my first college semester. I had zero study habits but every course I took needed me to study.
What I should have done was start with a few degree requirements, a single science with lab, and padded each semester with an easy or low work class. Keep working on my degree while giving myself some breathing room. I also didn't need to take any advanced math classes (did AP calc in high school) since my degree only required intro statistics, which ended up being a breeze class.
I still would have struggled but I think I could have managed a lot better and not dropped below a 3.0 GPA had someone told me that I don't need to cram my schedule with only difficult classes.
Not standing up for myself as a teen.
i should've went to the college where all my friends went instead going to the "better" college by myself. being completely by yourself sucks
My choice of collage major. I have a BA in film production and really struggled to make a career in that industry. Because of that I was always on financial survival mode and felt I really missed out on my 20s of all the things I could have done places I could have visited.
I have a very good life now though. I’m 33, married, homeowner, new car and have a decent career (completely unrelated industry).
But I still look black at my degree and can’t help but feel like had I’d chosen a more practical career field I wouldn’t have missed out on a whole decade of my life.
College full bs
Reading this sub
Probably a toss up between:
When I was applying to universities I picked one close to home so I could stay near my dying mother, and chose a major that I knew she approved of. She died less that three weeks into my freshman year. If I could go back, I would have taken the UW scholarship and pursued a passion.
When I tried killing myself in my 20s, I bought the wrong kind of iron and ended up just getting really sick and fucking up my stomach. I'd buy the right stuff this time, the red ones, not the green ones, sulphate, and take some vitamin c with them.
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The Bay of Pigs debacle
I bet you're hyperaware of time zones now, aren't ya?! ;-)
Leaving my life in Canada to come back to my home country because of a GF that stayed here, she left me after a couple years.
Going to jail omg. It changed my whole trajectory & im still recovering. Better now than the beginning but it changed everything
Marriage
My wedding day.
I purchased a restaurant.
Getting married. I'm divorced now, and all it cost me was my savings, my house, my good job, and so, so much of my mental health.
Getting married. It’s been 7 years since it fell apart and I still haven’t recovered. Or figured out how to not blame myself entirely for it and for ruining another person’s life for 8 years. I fear this will haunt me for the rest of my life and I’ll never be able to find a partner.
The way I did college. So many regrets - from choosing to go to a private religious university my first 2 years (only upside was that my dad was rich enough to pay for it all including room and board, and at the time we were both religious but not anymore, and it was easy to make friends there) to what I majored in, which I changed a few different times, to choosing to only go to small colleges and a lot of online classes, especially my last year of my undergrad and for my whole graduate degree. I now wish I went to a larger state school and taken almost all in person classes (except for part of graduate school this was all before 2020) which would have been more fun and given me more of a social and dating life, especially if I joined a sorority and went to more social events from the college. My associate’s was in general business, my bachelor’s was in liberal arts, and my master’s was in marketing research but I wish knew about and majored in fashion merchandising, which is what I soon plan on going back to school and getting a certificate in since better late than never.
I hated my college but I think I’d feel less shame if I’d finished it anyway. I would be in more debt though
Meeting my ex that severely messed up my life and ripped apart long term friendships I had.
Not the biggest but ill give a recent one. I was driving back from work (immensely tired from a hour to hour busy work day). I make it to my apartment complex and a lady in front of me honks at me to stop my car. I brake and there I see a cute bunny crossing the street that was so small and came quick, I definitely couldve hit it
After it quickly crosses im still just so dead from work that day so I continue on driving without even caring about what happened or giving the lady in the car ahead of me a thumbs up.
Was very ashamed of it but its okay I forgive myself cuz I was tired and most of the time work doesnt get to me but yesterday it did. Next time ill always give props and a thumbs up and appreciate the kindness she did
Marrying my first wife.
University. I somehow had a great time by meeting my wife and getting a degree, but also the worst time by making very few friends and not going out enough. I half blame it on The Pandemic, but mostly on the fact that I was doing a CS degree.
Didn't pay for a girl at the movies when I was in 7th grade. I'm 36 now and will regret that until the day I die
commenting here something that was not problematic at all - and getting banned, anyone know how to get my account back?
I borrowed money to bet on "fixed" soccer match that ended differently and ended up in debts that am still paying
Wish I had moved away in my 20s and created the life I wanted. Instead of staying in the toxic environment with my family. Took alot of time to heal and undo bad behaviors I was taught.
I should have transferred from a private college to a state school.
Screwed my life up, sending a few stupid messages to a co worker Got my partner disappearing from my life in 30 min…. And I still cry every night
Not getting into a proper career out of school
Being born
Marrying again. Big mistake.
Buying my first house. Not so regretful about buying a house but wish I stuck my foot down with my SO and bought the house I really wanted….or just bought any other house than the one we did
My last relationship
Going to college and racking up debt when I was only 18 and had no idea what I was signing up for
Smoking too much weed and consuming far too many drugs at university
Staying at a toxic job too long
Wanting to use the same online chatroom as my sister growing up. Got groomed into a relationship with an older man for several years that kicked off my downward spiral of depression and suicide attempts. Ended up ruining my academics and then dropping out of college so I'm a "failure" of an adult with only entry-level jobs
Choose French
This isn't much compared to other posts, but in December 2019 my friends and I were planning a trip to Kyiv. We ended up deciding not to go as we also had a trip to Vietnam and Thailand planned in the summer so we thought we would be better saving money for that. Obviously the Vietnam and Thailand trip didn't happen because of covid and it looks like I won't be able to see Kyiv any time soon, and even if I do it will be recovering from the war.
I wish I appreciated my grandfather more, while he was still alive.
Not taking action against my previous workplace when they took serious advantage of me.
Dating my ex. It was very long distance, me in Louisiana and her in Nova Scotia. I was young, we were each others first everything, I felt obligated to stay even when signs showed we should have broken up. We had always planned for her to move down to me, I worked on getting things set up for her to just pack her stuff up and leave. She was not close to her family while I'm from a large close knit Italian family.
I got to see the stress and anxiety of her going through college while I worked to establish a nice landing spot for her and then she graduated and got stuck on moving or going back for her masters, for 2 years. And then one day she asked if I would move to Canada instead, to which I said no.
Our relationship was mostly online and through text, though we did see each other two or three times a year in person for about a week to 10 days at a time. But I became severely introverted during that time, depressed, lost friendships, gained 100 pounds, gained a lot of bad habits. All for her to say that the plans we had always both worked for didn't work for her anymore.
She broke up with me on my 25th birthday. I'm almost 33 now, I've been on exactly 2 dates since then, fear commitment, have exactly 0 prospects, and truly fear I may end up completely alone in the future, all while my friends and family get married and have kids. I want nothing more than a family of my own but am also utterly terrified of the thought.
My mom passed away from brain/lunger cancer 3 days before I graduated college. My college was an hour away, but still close enough to visit when I could. My mom was in Hospice and we knew it would happen anytime. I got a call one day at 3:30 in the morning from my sister just telling me "it's time". I hopped out of bed, took a quick shower, got dressed, and drove as quickly as I could to Hospice. When I arrived, my sister and Aunt met me at the door and told me I just missed her by 5 minutes. To this day, I regret taking that shower. I walked into her room after she had passed away and rigor mortis had already set in. That image of her is engraved in my brain and I can't get it out
Trust
When Bitcoin was $800 (I think around 2017) I had a friend really laying hard into getting me to buy. He was like "just buy 1 bitcoin". I shrugged him off. I did briefly think about buying them. But it just felt like gambling, not an investment. I could have easily bought like 10 bitcoins, I had the extra money.
Bitcoin worth $109,310 right now. Not 100% sure i'd have the "diamond hands" and still be holding but I do kind of wonder what my life may have been like. It's like losing out on a lottery ticket that was in your hands.
I did ask the friend later via email if he held on. He didn't reply back (probably for good reason). I know he's alive and well. Maybe he is rich. Who knows?
Should have starters working where I work now earlier in life. Has a lot of BS jobs in life and felt underpaid for what I was doing. Though my job still doesn’t pay well, I feel like this is the job that is the most enjoyable snd the less taxing on myself.
Probably replying too quickly to that goodbye text. I could have worded things clearer and I left so many things unsaid that giving myself closure has been hard to accept emotionally even though logically it's been over long before hand.
Not finishing college. Thought I could get by with simple jobs like my grandpa did. Yeah, that didnt happen. Now Im at 28/hr after years with my company while buddies all upskilled and moved up positions. Now thry are making 5-7k/month and are already well vested with their pensions.
I regret giving a lesser person a chance. When you extend a lifeline, some people won't know the difference between pulling themselves up and pulling you down with them.
Inviting this one girl over. I was SAed because I didn't understand consent. I stunted in mental development at about 11 years old. It stayed stunted until I was about 18/19. No one other than my family could really tell. I wasn't learning disabled, but mentality wise, I was.
I don't exactly blame her because she didn't know, and I certainly didn't know at the time.
Reaching out to my ex. Turned out to be the biggest piece of abusive sht and I lost many years and opportunities before I was able to escape. All good now, it’s been a few years and rebuilt my life up (mostly), but when I’m in my feels I get so mad at the hell I was put through and blame myself for being so naive & wish I never wrote that “hi” message ….
Unprotected sex. Made some good money in crypto from 2018 to 2021 and travelled Asia and raw dogged a bunch of boys and girls. Had to get 3 surgeries for HPV warts. I haven't had sex since.
Helping the wrong people out. Some people are in the position they're in for a reason.
If you help them you might end up with dead family, friends taken in triangulation against you, and left alone in the world with cancer facing everything they never had to because of you because of them, only saving grace is accidentally.
Be careful who you let into your life even if they aren't your friends, the people in your life are your future.
Also forget signs or any synchronicity, do what makes you happy, where it makes you happy. And with whom.
Wasting years trying to be what others wanted instead of figuring out who I actually was
I really regret getting wasted on jelly vodka in my 2nd Yr at uni and making a total, and I mean total jackass of myself.
Up to that point I'd just been operating on the basis that the more drunk we all get, the more fun we all have.
That night was a ghastly wake-up call. I was loud, crass, obnoxious, disrespectful - when I realised the next day I was absolutely beside myself with horror, remorse, guilt, and shame. Thank Christ my friends knew me well enough to know it was out of character so they forgave me and we all moved on, but even so it took YEARS to really live it down.
Folks, alcohol might make you feel good, but it's not necessarily your friend. In fact, it ruins lives every single day, and if it were a person you would disown them in a heartbeat.
Telling my barber do whatever you think looks good I haven’t known peace since
Not doing ''mature/adult'' stuff first, then going abroad to live, travel and spends tons of money.
While I love my history of adventures and the time spent living abroad, it got in the way of things I am now trying to accomplish (a job with a decent pay, a drivers license and so on, and the latter costs me an absolute fortune meaning that while I do work 75 percent of my wages go to that ''adventure.''
I do live in a pretty big appartement, but that is on my boyfriend (bless him 😅, not gifted we live together and I pay rent) but before that I went from room to room.
Now I am 29, feeling like 20 finance wise. 🥴
Should have never grow up imagine waking up with your mum getting your breakfast,lunch and dinner ready to eat
9/11
That sent America down our current path.
Running with inappropriate shoes messed my leg and i had back pain and leg pains since then
Fucking my best friend.
Going to college. Came from a poor family with 0 financial skills. Was told if I just maintained good grades and went to college, I'll be better off than they ever were.... I'm not. I'm just salted with debt that won't be gone till I'm 50.
Not going to therapy YEARS ago
Being told to leave after the secret service called me up, I went on a contract to save the world and in the end my world ended up being destroyed
When she said "don't pull out", I should never have listened.
Selling my 69 Barracuda when I went in the Navy. So much regret Especially when I see how ugly car designs have gotten.
About ten years ago I found a guy that just adored me. Did all he could to spends his entire day/week with me. We dated constantly. The entire time he was in the US on a visitor's visa. And even when he went back home we maintained talking.
Until one day when I called, I noticed he was doing poppers and had some other drug stuff (marijuana related) in his house.
I don't care how tame it is. Drugs/alcohol are just a massive turn off to me. So I stopped talking to him.
Pretty much the only regret I have in life. Had I maintained, probably would've found out that it wasn't a big deal, he could've quit that stuff, or I could've green used to it.
Haven't had a date since, and that definitely bugs me.
Not going to the ER after a fall at work. I suffered a bad TBI and I wasn’t in the right state of mind after the fall. I trusted my employer and trusted they would take care of me but they didn’t. Now I’m disabled and can’t hold a job due to my brain injury
How could this happen?
My employer sent me to their occupational doctor and they just told me to go home. Even though I had every sign of brain injury and skull fracture. Never did any imaging or testing until months later. They took me off work for three weeks but my boss got super upset and yelled at me and forced me to go back to the doctor and ask to work from home. So I never took time off to recover.
Similar for me after injuring my back.. went to occupational health dr who sent me to physio. No xray or mri just taught to strengthen muscles. I put up with aching back for years then discovered chronic nerve root irritation. And that led to complex regional pain syndrome. Ws medically retired from RN job at 25 and haven't worked for 32 yrs since in pain every single day.
When did this happen? Did you see a lawyer? Please see a lawyer! (Signed, concerned law student)
'Murica