I drew a NSFW drawing for a friend recently & my roommate said it was really weird to do that & I shouldn't have done it
I didn't think it was weird, but now I'm questioning
Is it weird?
Edit: she asked for it! I did not draw anything without consent or of specifically her
Edit 7/9: My friend told me my roommate is "low-key homophobic"??? at our usual boba get together It doesn't make sense, my roomie has never said anything or done anything homophobic Am super confused and will be talking to my roommate at our movie night
Update??:
Okay, I'm freaking out a bit Basically, my friend who I made NSFW and I went to have boba for a lunch/hangout this afternoon.
I asked her if she was okay with what I drew for her, and told her to let me know if I made her uncomfortable at all. She said she totally was okay with it, it was funny, it was based on our past convo. I didn't want her to know my roomie said it was weird because I really have been wanting them to be friends/get along. Two of my closest people being friends kinda thing. But she kept pushing and I told her, and she kinda got really offended? Like upset. She then started telling me how my friend was “low-key homophobic”, and I kinda got really anxious so I can't really remember exactly what she said, but she said my roomie was always cold to her, and judgemental of her outfits? Saying things judgy like you need a jacket or whatever or more clothes (She wears more ‘gay/alternative outfits that are more revealing’) which I don't know because I don't remember ever seeing them talk more than Midwest how-do-you-do But she said my roommate kinda holds me back and is limiting me? That she is putting me into a box(??). Plus she said it was a clear sign that my roommate was homophobic because she wasn't okay with the NSFW drawing. (I show and get critiques from my roommate for some NSFW commissions with similar themes with no issues tho!)
I feel so conflicted. I really trust my friend cause we do a lot of cool things together, pushing boundaries experiencing new things
But I just had a movie night with my roommate and she just told me a lot of things and apparently my friend is taking advantage of me? Like she said I pay for a lot of my friends things unfairly, drive her around more than I should. She said my friend is always talking over me and never really listening to me (which idk, I'm more quiet with pretty much everyone?) She said she was taking advantage over my crush/infatuation to lead me on (I've never said that I had a crush on my friend ever) and that I was her play girlfriend while she's single. (Which also doesn't make sense cause my friend acted like this with me when she was dating) I like to provide and make my friends smile tho I try to do the same to my roommate but she's always a stickler about splitting the bill even
I'm freaking out trying to draw (haha) cause I have no idea what to do My roomie went to bed and I don't know what I'd even talk to my friend about I don't make friends easy and now it's like they are enemies to each other
I don't know what to do :( should I post on another sub?? This was more complicated than I thought it was
Should I not show my friends NSFW anymore????? I made a mess of it 😭
Huge difference between “for your friend” and “of your friend” btw
But if your friend asked for it then sure
No lol it wasn't of her She playfully said I should draw her as a sexy demon tho haha
Yeah, not only is it not weird, but she might also want to get a little weird.
Nah, my friend isn't like that. She usually has a girlfriend or partner (she's single recently but she said she's talking with another girl rn she met at the gym)
Hey you never know until you know. She's basically asking you to picture her as a sexy demon.
It was more in a joking tone, besides I am not her type lol
Are you the roommates type, cuz this (to me) looks like shes into you and jealous of the nsfw artwork the other friend got, especially if they don't really like each other
Check back in 5 or 10 years, gotta answer this one with some hindsight my guy
The people have spoken OP
..... Uh huh......
Are you by chance a girl they met at the gym?
Everyone is right. If she asked for that, it's the OPPOSITE of weird. Congrats!
Definitely sounds like she's into you
did the friend ask for the drawing? like even a “draw me something freaky lmao?”
Yeah, basically I do commissions occasionally & some NSFW, so we were talking about what I've drawn and about the stuff I like to draw and she said I should totally draw what we were talking about (sorry for the vague, don't really want my roommate to see this lol)
then yeah, your other friend is tripping lmao.
nothing wrong with making naughty stuff for someone who asked
Okay cool, Its just my roommate is one of the few I show my art to (in person lol) & she's usually really cool about it & when she heard I made this for my friend she got really offensive? She also told me I shouldn't make her any more NSFW art
well, as respectfully as i can put this, she needs to mind her own business
Any chance your roommate got jealous?
Maybe? I haven't drawn art for my roommate in a bit. I usually draw her something either digitally or traditionally but haven't recently cause of work
might be a stretch but considering they reacted kinda explosively they may be jealous or want to keep you to themself,,, but we’re strangers on the internet so what do we know lol
Your roommate likely had good intentions. Or is jealous of your friend somehow. Either way, she seems concerned by it. Sit them both down.
Hash it. Be done.
I think I'll try to talk with my roommate tomorrow at dinner (we have a movie night planned) I also usually take my friend out for boba on Wednesday, so I can check with her too to make sure I didn't make her uncomfortable
Good plan.
I'd love an update when you can please. Hopefully this all went well and everyone was honest resulting in some growth and/or healing.
Roommate told you you shouldn't make more NSFW art for your friend? Or for your roommate? Because if she is fine with you making it for her (the roommate) then her saying you shouldn't do it for anyone else is incredibly hypocritical. Or jealous, but that's no excuse to try to tell you what to do with your art or to try and dictate how your friendships should be. Does she often try to tell you what to do?
Yeah for my friend. I've never made NSFW stuff for my roommate, just sfw stuff No she doesn't really tell me what to do. Me and her hang out a lot and I consider her a really close friend. I probably hang with her more than my friend I made the NSFW for. She is usually so chill and nice about things, encouraging my art and more. I'm a bit of an introvert and she's actually helped me get out and do stuff. I actually met my other friend (NSFW) at a party my roommate brought me to
Did the friend ask to be the subject of the NSFW art or just some NSFW art.
An anonymous general model is one thing. Your friend might not have meant an image from your head showing them penetrated by a tentacle or something. Kind of would make them wonder how you see them.
Could it be that she told someone else that you made her NSFW art and that person told your roommate it was weird and so now she's lashing out at you due to her own discomfort of being judged?
Yes, if she asked for it, and it’s not an images based on her, I don’t see a problem.
If its a fucking commission its a job. Not weird
This actually wasn't a commission I usually draw things for my friend for free unless they force money into my hands haha
Then it's a request. Then that makes it a gift she ASKED for.
Even less weird
Then it's not weird because your friend knew and gave it the go. As long as the other party is cool with it, then what others said doesn't matter.
Why don’t you want your friend to see it? Genuinely, I’m autistic and just don’t get the motivation beyond perceived saving face or otherwise delusion (in the literal sense)
You have her consent so yes. It’s an art form. Maybe get a written one to be safe.
That's one of the most normal things artists do, swapping smutty art with fellow artist friends.
Haha okay cool I kinda thought that (my friend isn't a 'fellow artist', but we talk NSFW stuff without any issues) But my roommate is giving me kinda a stink eye over it lol I'm rethinking cause I know she's not a huge fan of my friend, they kinda tolerate each other but I've never seen them do more than greet each other ao
Your roommate is just being weird, ignore her.
Is it possible that your room-mate is into you?
Yea this is also my guess.
I'm in a writers group and we also share story prompts/ideas that we probably won't get around to writing ourselves, and a lot of times this means we are writing nsfw material for each other. It's super fun and funny, and a great creative exercise!
Your friend may be a bit of a prude haha, but that is okay. Not everything is for everyone! But you're just participating in a time honored tradition. <3
For real. Obviously depends on the artist, but its not uncommon nor bad as long as both sides are happy with it. OP's roommate is just judgey and/or puritan
Can confirm, smutty artist here with smutty artist friends
No, honestly your roomate is making it weirder than it needs to be by finding it weird.
if its wrong i dont want to be right
Lol
If its in oil paint/pastel/watercolors then, it's classy...
Buddy it worries me that you didn't include a very important piece of context. Did your friend ask for the drawing or did you spontaneously give them a lewd drawing as a gift?
Shoot, yeah no she asked for it It was like a joke thing. My roommate saw it on my screen & asked about it (my roommate also knows about what I draw) & started saying it was weird and I shouldn't be doing that for my friend pretty adamantly She's usually really chill about my art stuff and I sometimes ask for her opinion so I'm second guessing it
Oh then you’re completely fine. Some people get uncomfortable when encountering something sexual unexpectedly, and that’s okay as long as your roommate don’t harass you over it since it’s not like you shoved it in your roommate’s face
Is your roomie jealous mayhap?
Aw, I thought you were going to ask for the very important piece of context which involved sharing an image of the drawing
Nah. If a friend drew me NSFW, I'd be honored. If they can draw, that is. If they can't, I can't even really put it on the fridge, can I?
I mean, is it really any worse than Jr’s macaroni art?
(Me, staring at the nsfw macaroni art): "Wow, that's a loooong noodle..."
Its ok as long as you arent at work. Its safe everywhere else.
I think the only opinions that matter here are your own and your friends.
I always make dicks from play dough when my friends ask me to
A for effort
You got a lot of comments already but as another queer woman artist who makes NSFW art on commission and otherwise for fun, it’s not weird! I’ve drawn porn for friends lots of times actually!! They even pay me for it!
Your roomie is just being a little idk.. Prude lol. Also I dunno if your roomie is straight, cause of the homophobe comment there but it’s possible she just isn’t as used to how de-stigmatized sexual expression can be in queer circles? I find a lot of straight people can struggle with topics like this cause theyre just not as used to talking about stuff along the subject with friends or if it does come up from their friends it’s probably from a male friend trying to get in their pants.
I definitely think talking it out is a good idea! Have fun and keep drawing sexy demons!!
Weird by definition (I.e. something out of the norm), yes. Bad? No, she asked for it, you both consented, provided everyone is over 18 you’re fine
Please enlighten me on what you drew. Was it r/dragonsfuckingcars or r/sandycheekscockvore?
Let's see what we have here...
Oh...
Oh what the hell...?
What the-
WHAT THE FUCKK!???
WHY IS THIS-
Dear god.
If you are an artist, then why not make art for your friend (if you are comfortable with it)?
nope. there are tons of artists online that draw NSFW for commissions or gifts for friends. as long as they consented to it, it's not a big deal
I mean, if someone specifically asked for it, i dont see what's wrong
If you gave it out of thr blue however....
I've literally been naked in front of my friends, it's not weird if you're all on board with it
Definitely not weird, and I also would wonder whether your roommate has done/said stuff to your friend that made her feel uncomfortable even if it wasn't overtly homophobic (like, microaggression type stuff). Sometimes homophobia can be pretty subtle.
Have a friend who draws NSFW and she shares it with me all the time; she’s drawn me something before too. I don’t think it’s weird at all, we both like/have interest in this stuff, so if you are both okay with it, share some more!
If you’re comfortable with it and your friend is comfortable with it then it’s not weird.
if this is something that you do for others and they asked for it i see nothing wrong. maybe its a little odd but its not weird in like a creepy way.
FOR your friend, perfectly fine.
OF your friend, super weird.
Not at all, not weird one bit. She wanted the drawing, and she got it. Just doin’ something for a friend.
My best friend and I write erotica and let each other read it for fun. I don't think it's weird lol
I draw NSFW stuff, post it in my Patreon and at Comic Fury, I just do it for fun. Some folks get too uptight.
If they asked, no. If you randomly did it, yes
As long as minors were not involved, whether as the subject or requestor of the drawing, you did nothing wrong imo.
As long as you’re both consenting adults I don’t see what the issue would be… sexuality is a part of life and discussed with friends indeed
It's not weird in the sense that there is nothing wrong with drawing a NSFW pic for your friend if they asked for it. But it is weird in that drawing porn for your friend is extremely uncommon for people to do. Uncommon weird, but not bad weird.
Draw me like one of your French girls
Remeber, consent is key gang. If she asked for it, then there's nothing wrong with it.
If she asked you to draw it for her, it's not weird and it's between the two of you. That's the key bit of information here. Other people might think it's weird, but whatever.
This is an hours old post with a lot of comments I haven't read, but: no.
My bestie draws me NSFW all the time. And it's the best because my bestie knows what I appreciate in art, so it's catered to my taste. :)
The key is consent!
so long as you're both okay with it, who cares?
What ? Your roommate sounds annoying af
Do you, don’t let some other person stop you
She's not tho, she is usually really nice and supportive and stuff - shes even given me some advice/critiques on most of my commission art, including the nsfw
I figured it was commission but didn’t want to speak without knowing
This being a way you make money makes her even more in the wrong
No this one to my friend wasnt a commission, I drew it for her free
I really hate it when people judge others by a trivial 'weird' standard. Fuck that.
I like to use the 'harm' standard instead..
Did you harm anyone? no?
You're Gucci.
If they asked and you had no issue, your roommate should mind their own business.
If it's fully consensual, not weird in the SLIGHTEST. Fandom communities have been making NSFW art as gifts for their friends for yeaarrssssss. Nothing says "Happy birthday, I appreciate you a lot, here's a character you drool over getting railed exactly how you like it" like custom NSFW art 😂♥️
Genuinely reading through your post & your reply comments, there ain't a thing in the world weird about the situation, you two do you!
Is it bad when a production company asks an artist for nsfw animated panels? No, so why is this any different
Weird and bad are different things. Be as weird as you like. Your roommate should mind their own business. Assuming your friend appreciated your drawing.
I mean... You guys didn't use to pass a paper with a massive veiny dick and hairy balls drawn?
It's only weird if your friend makes it.. that is comes back with a ohh man I wrecked that drawing last night.....
I make nfsw fan art of my friends romance books for them. They love it. I can’t sit down and read a book to save my life, but have FOMO, and wanna come to bookclub 💀
With consent, no.
Jesus save us from puritanical, taboo-fetishizing creeps.
No, it wasn't weird.
It is literally what humans did for hundreds of thousands of years before selfie cameras.
Just because your friend cannot be a mature adult and not see sexualization in everything doesn't mean that YOU can't be a decent adult and draw someone without specifically sexualizing them for your own gratification.
When I was in college everyone knew I was great at portrait work.
Many of my friends asked me to do all kinds of work for them and not a few of them wanted something where they were living out their fantasies to some kind of extent. Swords or pilots gear or swimming alone in a lake. All kinds of things. And some were NSFW.
Don't allow your friends to slap their insecurities and freakouts on your shoulders and burden you with their hangups.
No I wouldn’t think it’s weird but I can understand your roommates point of view.
No, it's fine. They were probably just jealous.
...Of course it's not weird ? Your roommate is just a prude
did you guys have a conversation about it and you knew they'd be comfortable with it?
Can I see some naughty drawings?
😐😐😐😐 no comment
You're good.
As other commenters say, it depends on the person, as someone who has received art gifts myself (some NSFW) my personal stance is "do whatever lmao"
Theo Von has a good a story about this
As long as your friend's cool with it and there's consent, I don't see the issue
If she asked for it, I don't see why it would be weird. I mean. People used to commission themself painted all the time. Did your roommate know she asked for it? Only thing making it weird would be doing it without her consent.
It's only weird if either of you don't want to do it or know about it. Looks like your friend wants you to draw NSFW stuff for them tho so absolutely not weird. Even if it's nude stuff of them. If you're both cool with it just do it. Anyone who is weirded out by it is just weird themselves. It's 2025, sex and nudity isn't some forbidden taboo even if Karen wants it to seem so.
If your friend is fine with it then yeah.
If they consented to it, then it’s fine. If they didn’t, then yes it’s weird. I do this with some online friends and their adult characters because we’re artists and it’s usually for shits and giggles
No
Second question, does your roomate know your friend requested the art. That might be the issue
If you're both legal adults and she asked for it then there's nothing wrong
No, it's not weird.
I mean, considering in today’s society the ONLY thing that makes something not weird is consent, then nah you should be fine 😂 (yes slight exaggeration on my part, allow it)
Let's see what were working with
If she asked you to do it and you were fine with it, yeah that's fine. If you felt weird about it then bring it up with her and talk about it, but if all parties involved consented then that's really all that matters.
How loud they sneeze
My best friends have seen all of my NSFW art, and a few of us have drawn trades. I don't think it's weird.
Not of anyone real people that you both know (or of real people in general imo), but otherwise yeah, go nuts. I wish I had a friend who’d draw smut for me.
Is there a realistic possibility of romantic and/or sexual tension between you and your roommate or friend?
No way, my friend doesn't date girls like me (introverted, awkward, ect) My friend does kinda playfully flirt with me, I think, but she does that to everyone. My roommate has never dated girls/dated anyone other than guys. Once when we were drinking I think she said something like a female celebrity was hot but I don't remember who she said
Not weird, there's nothing wrong with consensual NSFW. How do they think other NSFW stuff is made?
My friend and I once wrote smut fanfiction for each other so I think this is okay
I mean it’s a bit weird to me personally, but whatever two consenting adults do is none of my or ur roommate’s business
Depends if they’re paying.
Thinking that it's a little weird for a friend to request a NSFW drawing from you is not "low-key homophobic". That's the accusatory bullshit that is damaging and makes people feel like they can't say/discuss certain things without being labeled ____phobic/racist/sexist/etc.
what is "boba"?
Balls Or Boobs Abound
um, this makes no sense to me in the context, but ok.
at our usual boba get together
their usual "balls or boobs abound" get together?
In a broader world context, "boba" refers to bubble tea (boba chai).
boba balls are little chewy tapioca balls found in boba tea, aka bubble tea
In my experience it's pretty difficult for someone to ask to have themselves drawn, especially in a nsfw or even risqué manner. Turning them down can also be crushing. If someone I know asks me to draw them I almost always agree. It's something I love to do, I know them and they asked, simple as that. If you do nsfw art and your friends know it, it's not weird at all to do work for them. It can create awkward situations but that's true for anything even close to erotic.
As a fellow human I see how this is weird. It's not bad that you drew it for your friend. In fact, I'm sure it was a great gift. But your roommate isn't wrong for getting uncomfortable.
But generally no one really wants to know if you drew a NSFW, no one wants the details, and no one really wants to see it unless they REALLY want to.
NSFW just isn't a comfortable conversation generally, and, to the non-fanfic and non-art people out there, it can be wildly uncomfortable depending on the person.
Depends on your relationship. I’ve drawn friends and family as nude art before
Not really, if your friend asked for, then I feel it's to show appreciation for your art work
Did your friend asked for it ? If so, who cares, it's not weird.
Did they ask?
Could be Worst
Could be drawing NSFW off your friend.
Nah, it's not weird mate, if she wanted it then all's good. I actually wrote a literal horny fanfic about my friends for their anniversary lol. They asked for it when we were drunk, and then I wrote it while still drunk the same night. We had a dramatic reading when the hangover passed. Some people are more open about that kind of stuff, and other are less, and that's okay, but shaming someone for it is awful.
What I don't get is why can't we see it aswell
If you have a partner and they are not aware of it it's pretty fucking weird.
If they asked for it, no. I've threatened my friend saying I was gonna draw him naked a few times as a joke but never did it, but if he does want me to, I would
Is it bad or harmful? No. Is it still weird? Yes. carry on.
I mean if they appreciate the drawing and aren’t jorking it to the image I don’t see anything wrong here ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Even if they are "jorking it" I still see no issue
Yes your a weird
Yes
Chicken butt
Yes
Yes
Drawing smut is weird
i’m guessing they didn’t ask. so yeah. weird.
If your friend asked you to draw it then no. If they didn't ask for it then yes, very yes.
ALL THESE RULES!!
They're really just one rule: Consent good, no consent bad...
What are the rulllesss
WHAT
ARE THE RUUUUULES
If ykyk haha
I just want to draw ( . )Y( • )! Not be oppressed.
She had only enough money for one?
So the real question is was it weird for the friend to ask for a NSFW drawing.
Why do you think we have the phrase “asking for a friend”?
I asked my friend if he could draw some furry art for me, he said yes, I bought him a game, alls well in heaven.
nah fuck that it’s still weird if they asked and you said yes
what if i know they will want it but they said no earlier
edit: stop downvoting me rn you stinky redditors
edit edit: omg
My friend, are you familiar with consent tea?
war is bad
edit: omg
Yikes....
Edit: They originally said "what if they're shy and they want me to be agressive"
this is slander wow why would say "yikes" to war is bad
edit: They originally said "I don't believe in consent so why would they" and then changed it to yikes
edit edit: omg
Literally nobody ever will believe that dude why are you so desperate to prove that youre the one in the right
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Bro having a meltdown over some downvotes Peak trolling fr
You're having a bad karma day today 😅
Sorry your joke got dunked on.
We can see you edited that in💔🥀
how can you tell
LAUREN DONT LOOK AT THIS
I met my bestie though my whinging about rings of power and saying how A03 plots are infinitely better. She doesn't know shit about Tolkien but we bonded. We talked about the need for female representation and how women get horny too, etc etc. One night after work I get in my car and she knocks on my car window as I'm about to reverse out and asks "... You wanna see the BDSM elf porn I painted?"
FUCK YES I DO!
It was glorious, oil paints, acrylics, just so, so well done. So beautiful.
Sometimes you just find your soulmate and that's okay.
"Judge, I only had sex with her because I knew she wanted it in the future, her no meant nothing"
"no no...this is not a murder, I know he tried to stop me but he wanted to die eventually"
"Have you ever heard the time-machine-baby-Hitler problem? Well, you're not gonna believe this...."
I have NEVER seen such a bad take before, and the fact the bad takes don't stop here is astonishing. 😭
Don't say stupid shit then. That's totally down vote worthy. You don't know what a person wants better than they know themselves and it would be incredibly rude and creepy to draw something like that when they said no.
"what if I rape them when they say no, but I know that actually they really want it."
Are you professionally stupid or still in training?
Jarvis, im high on karma
I just sent this thread to my artist friend and I'd usually say no if she offered, cause her art is worth soooooo much and I can't afford it, but she knows what I like and if she gifted it to me id be so happy.
Lauren!! Fili! Halsin! Gale! Konig!
Carry on...
You would be considered weird then. You seem to be on the wild side of the spectrum if you don’t see that
You disgust me.
You love me.
That is the most downvoted dude in the most downvoted thread I've seen in 2025 so far. Well over -3000 karma in like 4 comments. Sheeew.