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Heard my gfs mom asking her why she dating such an ugly dude, what should I do?

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Majestic-Love-9312

Marry your girlfriend and then make it clear to her mom that you're going to have a lot of kids

10 hours ago
PrestigeWrldWd

I’m a solid 4, maybe a 5 now that I’ve dropped a bit of weight. My wife and her family all are very attractive people.

We have one son and he’s objectively handsome. So, just because you’re ugly doesn’t mean your kids will be.

9 hours ago
MouseRangers
Some people really make you question if this sub's name is true.

they inherited more of your wife's genes

8 hours ago
International_Host71

Not necessarily Attractive people don't always have attractive kids, and vice versa. For example, if you have a Paragon of masculinity for a father, and you inherit his chiseled jaw, broad shoulders, and thick hair that's great if you're his son; less so if you're his daughter.

8 hours ago
oogmar

In my family the ugly couples have stunners and vice versa. It's an interesting but consistent phenomenon.

8 hours ago
Pyrostemplar

"Nobody could understand how Mrs Lisbon and Mr Lisbon, our math teacher, could produce such beautiful creatures."

(Suicide Underground, by Air, from Sofia Coppola's The Virgin Suicides)

Sorry about the ot

9 minutes ago
MouseRangers
Some people really make you question if this sub's name is true.

Brock Lesnar's daughter

8 hours ago
Irksomecake

Bruce Willis and Demi Moores daughters . They don’t look like Demi moore

5 hours ago
fookreddit22

As horrible as it sounds, this was my first thought.

6 hours ago
Kujaichi

Okay, but he isn't attractive...

6 hours ago
coladoir

yea that’s the point; ugly can make beauty

4 hours ago
Wraith_Portal

Yeah but she’s not beautiful either, she’s absolutely clapped

4 hours ago
coladoir

i don’t think she’s really ugly at all, she’s just more masculine than most women. A woman doesn’t need to be feminine to be attractive or beautiful.

4 hours ago
Irksomecake

I don’t know. I know an exceptionally beautiful woman who is the image of her rather and has his chiselled jaw and incredible cheekbones. Mind you, I once saw a photshoot of Bruce Willis daughter and it looked like a face swap. Beautiful hair, beautiful breasts , face of bruce willlis. Poor girl looked nothing like her mother Demi moore

5 hours ago
RatedPC

Ha. Just wait until he starts losing teeth or hits puberty. A LOT of cute kids grow up to be gangley fucks when they’re out of the baby fat phase.

7 hours ago
LazyLich

Not enough parents push fitness onto their kids, so they dont develop the habit to work out and remain gangly fucks for too long v__v

51 minutes ago
Tamuzz

Maybe you are better looking than you think.

Don't be so hard on yourself

5 hours ago
MarineSnowman

Jon Voight is a pretty odd-looking guy, for example, and his daughter came out all right.

2 hours ago
Chewe_dev

Boys inherit more of mother and girls more of father. Not always but pretty high

6 hours ago
Alarmed_Finance8258

Glorious reply.

10 hours ago
Hour_Bed_5679

Right?? Petty with a purpose 😂

8 hours ago
PezDiSpencersGifts

Then 50 years when your grandchildren asks what made you fall in love and so committed to their grandma, you can say “it was all out of spite to her bitch of a mom”

9 hours ago
Sputnik2484

☝️😎 Boss move.

9 hours ago
tinaaay

Or he should sleep with the dad, as revenge.

8 hours ago
Big-Bluebird-1376

I think it all depends on how your gf responded.

10 hours ago
F4HWilly

This is the most important thing.

8 hours ago
YonKro22

Yes tell tell us what she said and if you didn't hear it ask her what she said

4 hours ago
petru166

You should start dating her even harder!

10 hours ago
GeneralEl4

What does that even mean?!

9 hours ago
loopingit

You know what it means!

9 hours ago
WestCoastMullet

Put a Ring on that thing!

9 hours ago
fugineero

Now you have a shit MIL til death do you part.

8 hours ago
WestCoastMullet

I had a shit MIL before my wife passed away, it was fun to annoy my MIL because she was an absolute POS to my late wife. Getting to put her in her place with just words was very satisfying.

But definitely have to have the wife on the same page.

8 hours ago
WorriedFire1996

So you shouldn't date anyone who has a shitty parent? That doesn't seem fair. People don't get to choose their parents.

8 hours ago
fugineero

If you're dating with the intention to marry and raise a family you should consider all of that. Do you want good extended family dynamic at family gatherings? Or do you want the kids to have limited contact with grandparents because you have a problem with them? People choose for dumber reasons like looks and height.

8 hours ago
WestCoastMullet

Where in anything I wrote did I say not to? You should read my original comment again because...What?

7 hours ago
Traveling_Solo

Or hump the gf where the mother might hear it :v and make sure to talk about future kids often and loudly in front of her and how you hope they'll get your looks and your girlfriend's personality or something

8 hours ago
TemporalChill

Rings can be put on so many things. You gotta be more specific

9 hours ago
WestCoastMullet

That thing is pretty specific

9 hours ago
TemporalChill

Hard disagree

9 hours ago
WestCoastMullet

It's ok to admit defeat.

9 hours ago
TemporalChill

It's ok to miss a joke too.

9 hours ago
Ok_Distribution_2603

we all got it the first time, it wasn’t hard

9 hours ago
Consistent-Ad-6078

It’s a lot harder to put the ring on when it’s hard

9 hours ago
LivingEnd44

I think you know exactly what that means. 

8 hours ago
Cordsofmemory

Did REDDIT miss an office reference? I'm flummoxed! That's a word I learned for this day, and I am it!

9 hours ago
Remote_Mistake6291

Nothing. It's her issue, not you.

10 hours ago
Upbeat_Vanilla_7285

Did she stick up for you?

10 hours ago
bill_n_opus

Tell her you have a big dick.

10 hours ago
Theo_earl

There it is.

9 hours ago
smilesbig

Maybe she wasn’t talking about you….

10 hours ago
Cronewithneedles

Oof

17 minutes ago
aagee

Well, are you ugly?

9 hours ago
Academic-Ad-1879

The real question, it's annoying they havent replied to anything 🙄

8 hours ago
Sad-Development-7938

And their account name is “no maintenance”. Doesn’t help the case, maybe he needs to work on maintaining himself

2 hours ago
PercentageMaximum457
Donate to your local food bank.

I'm sorry she was so shit to you. You don't deserve that. I would base your actions on how your girlfriend reacted. If she defended you, stay with her! If she didn't, ask her about it later. And I don't mean in an accusatory way. She might have went along with what her mom said to avoid trouble. (A lot of moms like that are abusive.) Confront her in the nicest way possible.

11 hours ago
gmkings

I’d let her mom know you heard it tbh. Let her feel awkward about it.

9 hours ago
limbodog
I should probably be working

That depends entirely on how your gf responded

9 hours ago
ImShaniaTwain

Get her alone, say "this is why" and flop out your dick. 

Let her look at it for a second, lock eyes with her while you quietly put it back in its cage and then walk off. 

10 hours ago
Legitimate-Log-6542

Ah yes, the classic flop out your dick defense

9 hours ago
SpaghetAndRegret

If the condom don’t fit, you must acquit

9 hours ago
TyphoidMary234

Alternatively, bop it.

9 hours ago
ZaxsTT

Try and seduce her mom. Power move.

10 hours ago
MissHillary

If it doesn’t work out with your GF, she’s got a Dad, right? Seduce him and be a homewrecker.

9 hours ago
CanadasNeighbor

Depends. What was your girlfriend's response?

8 hours ago
ahtemsah

What you do entirely depends on what your girl does:

1 - She defends you ? shower her with affection and love.

2 - She laughs along ? get your affairs in order and then lawyer up.

12 hours ago
Individual_Ladder_75

Lawyer up for a girlfriend?

12 hours ago
brettaburger

Lawyer up, delete Facebook, hit the gym

9 hours ago
markfineart

Cut carbs & sugar, reduce meat consumption, weep a lot.

9 hours ago
Ren-chan0502

Haircut up, get a gym, hit the lawyer.

The 3 horsemen of reddit advice

8 hours ago
King_Tut331

Probably some new GenZ lingo that means “prepare to break up with her” idk man that’s my guess

11 hours ago
RegretsZ

Can't believe the "lawyer up" joke is starting to become "old reddit" people don't know it

9 hours ago
FrozenTimeDonut

Redditors have been lawyering up, hitting Facebook, and deleting the gym since before gen z were lucid

8 hours ago
anomie89

fricken gen z

10 hours ago
TadpoleFun1413

lmao you guys. “Lawyer up” doesn’t mean anything. That person probably meant dump her.

10 hours ago
ahtemsah

figure of speech, mostly I mean to just prepare for the worst and protect yourself

10 hours ago
Equal_Personality157

After the beating 

Jk of course

10 hours ago
Individual_Ladder_75

wtf bro

10 hours ago
Federal-Swim5669

Good one

10 hours ago
Falibard

If you /J at the end people won't down vote you to oblivion sometimes.

10 hours ago
Consistent_Usual_872

Some jokes aren’t funny. 

10 hours ago
International_Hair16

Nah, joking about beating women isn’t funny…

10 hours ago
Equal_Personality157

https://www.reddit.com/r/superheroes/comments/1lw319b/why_did_omniman_beat_up_mark_wrong_answers_only/

Aight. I’ll only make jokes about beating men.

7 hours ago
Falibard

Idk, I think jokes about Chris Brown being a woman beater are pretty funny. Different strokes for different folks.

9 hours ago
Equal_Personality157

I put jk 

Maybe I’m too old and people don’t know that one anymore?

10 hours ago
GeneralEl4

Everyone knows it, we just don't find the "joke" funny.

9 hours ago
Individual_Ladder_75

People love to use the word “joke” to gaslight those who call them out for being a piece of shit.

8 hours ago
Equal_Personality157

It’s not that serious dude move on.

8 hours ago
Individual_Ladder_75

Gaslight someone else bro - you’re acting like a fucking creep.

7 hours ago
Falibard

It's a Reddit hivemind thing, I didn't get it either for a bit.

It's just means it's a /joke

10 hours ago
Equal_Personality157

You need to go on the rooftop and tell “I’M UGLY AND IM PROUD”

10 hours ago
JunkMale975

Ask who else she’s dating?

8 hours ago
Richard_Mambo

How bad are we talking here? Post a pic.

9 hours ago
kyii94

Confront the mom. Ask her what her problem is

9 hours ago
Damascus-Steel

If it were me I’d probably cry, have you tried that yet?

7 hours ago
sarahsolitude

Throw her for a loop and ask her the exact same question

10 hours ago
Veldern

Bask in the fact that you're obviously the most hilarious guy around! Then decide if you think there are actually improvements you want to make or not. Keep in mind ugly to one is gorgeous to another, so you might already be exactly what your partner is looking for

10 hours ago
stiveooo

It depends. Are you ugly? Cause beauty is in the eye of the beholder 

9 hours ago
Jackdunc

Plastic surgery an option? 😜. Seriously, ignore the noise, don't let anyone ruin your day/relationship/ confidence.

9 hours ago
dora_B_sunrise

Fuck her husband

8 hours ago
LivingEnd44

Nothing. Unless you were planning to date the mom. If so, I don't think she's interested. 

8 hours ago
AdFabulous3959

Everyone is ugly to someone

8 hours ago
pacmanz89

Ask your gf who the ugly guy is she's cheating on you with.

7 hours ago
Repulsive-Box5243

Yeah my mother had all kinds of opinions about my girlfriends growing up. They're just opinions. She's not dating you, your girlfriend is. And... her opinions are just that. Opinions. Disregard.

6 hours ago
old-new-programmer

Easy... bang her mom.

9 hours ago
sbwcwero

If you’re ugly own it. If you’re not who cares what she thinks.

If you don’t know…then ignorance is bliss fam.

8 hours ago
YaBoiChillDyl

Rip the bandaid off or it'll hurt more longer. There's no keeping a woman when everyone in her life hates you for something stupid, they'll gaslight her until her perception of you erodes into whatever they want her to see.

8 hours ago
mr_lab_rat

Accept that your potential future MIL thinks that you are ugly.

8 hours ago
Sorry-Alps-3076

smash her to make more offsprings to piss the mother off

8 hours ago
Amazingggcoolaid

Surprise them. Have a makeover then take them out and impress them like be a genuine gentleman but do it only out of spite or not. Make her feel ugly for calling you that.

8 hours ago
-Revelation-

Fuck her

8 hours ago
AdviceWithSalt

Make her laugh

8 hours ago
Impressionist_Canary

Bust out second puberty and show her what’s what

8 hours ago
hurls93

What makes a man ugly: if he has no self respect If all he does is lust for women If he doesn’t truly love his partner If he’s not a man for his children If he doesn’t help provide for the household If you are that then you are ugly If you are not that then you are not ugly I wouldn’t worry about someone dumb ass opinion cuz they are like assholes everyone got one 👃

8 hours ago
Nervous_Cranberry196

Fight fire with fire. When you are at the mom’s house next time, from a different room but within ear shot of her mom, tell her she obviously gets her beauty from her Dad’s side of the family.

Mic drop 🎤

8 hours ago
SonicBanger

[ Removed by Reddit ]

7 hours ago
bartender-san

Stay ugly my friend. Just continue your life

7 hours ago
jellygoobs9

Guilt trip time for the mom!

6 hours ago
Glittering-Work2190

Tell her Mom even ugly people need love too.

6 hours ago
txs2300

Is the mom somewhat of a scientist herself?

6 hours ago
rubinass3

"I may be ugly, but I'm one charming MF to be dating your daughter."

6 hours ago
Planticus-_-Leaficus

Just get her to say it’s because you’ve got a massive cockadoodle doo Watch her Mum’s demeanour change.

6 hours ago
r0ark5

marry her

6 hours ago
Crunchy-Leaf

Bang her daughter (again)

5 hours ago
Substantial_Client_3

"I am sorry but this is not porn, this is the real life and I have no obligation to fuck my mother-in-law, thank you."

"Can I get more of that coleslaw? It is superb, thank you."

5 hours ago
be-bop_cola

Ask her why she was so rude about you

5 hours ago
korevis

“Why do you think?” And then wink at her.

5 hours ago
Craneomagico

Piss on her to assert dominance

5 hours ago
YonKro22

Wow you must have some really really awesome qualities some charm and character and maybe money or a great heart and wonderful empathy lots of girls are really shallow and they don't see all that but this girl obviously is much more astute and has seen past whatever her mom thinks is not making you look good. You could take that as an awesomely wonderful compliment with the girl likes you know Mom thinks you're not good looking.

4 hours ago
Super7Position7

This is the perfect time to sing her (the mom) a song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MYxAiK6VnXw

… Yeah this one right here goes out to all the baby's mamas, mamas Mamas, mamas, baby mamas, mamas Yeah, go like this

… I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times

… My baby's drama mama, don't like me She be doing things like having them boys come from her neighborhood To the studio trying to fight me She need to get a, piece of the american pie and take her bite out That's my house, I'll disconnect the cable and turn the lights out And let her know her grandchild is a baby, and not a paycheck Private school, daycare, shit medical bills I pay that I love your mom and everything, but see I ain't the one who laid down She wanna rib you up to start a custody war, my lawyers stay down Shit you never got a chance to hear my side of the story we was divided She had fish fries and cookouts for my child's birthday I ain't invited Despite it, I show her the utmost respect when I fall through All you, do is defend that lady when I call you, yeah

… I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times

… Me and yo' daughter, got's this thing going on (We got a special kind of thing going on) You say it's puppy love We say it's full grown Hope that we feel this, feel this way forever You can plan a pretty picnic But you can't predict the weather, Ms. Jackson

… Ten times out of nine, now if I'm lyin' fine The quickest muzzle throw it on my mouth and I'll decline King meets queen, then the puppy love thing, together dream Bout that crib with the Goodyear swing On the oak tree, I hope we feel like this forever Forever, forever, ever, forever, ever? Forever never seems that long until you're grown And notice that the day by day ruler can't be too wrong Ms. Jackson my intentions were good I wish I could Become a magician to abacadabra all the sadder Thoughts of me, thoughts of she, thoughts of he Asking what happened to the feeling that her and me Had, I pray so much about it need some knee, pads It happened for a reason one can't be, mad So know this, know that everything's cool And yes I will be present on the first day of school, and graduation

… I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times

… Uh, uh, yeah "Look at the way he treats me" Shit, look at the way you treat me You see your little nosy-ass home girls Done got your ass sent up the creek G Without a paddle, you left to straddle And ride this thing on out Now you and your girl ain't speaking no more Cause my dick all in her mouth Know what I'm talking about? Jealousy, infidelity, envy Cheating to beating, envy and to the G they be the same thing So who you placing the blame on, you keep on singing the same song Let bygones be bygones, you can go on and get the hell on You and your mama

… I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times

… I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times I'm sorry Ms. Jackson (oh), I am for real Never meant to make your daughter cry I apologize a trillion times

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Andre Benjamin / Antwan Patton / David Sheats

Ms. Jackson lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Iricom US Ltd

4 hours ago
laddervictim

Have you tried being more attractive?

4 hours ago
aneasymistake

Ask your girlfriend why she thinks it’s ok to date some ugly guy as well as you.

4 hours ago
traffy8630

My grandparents are very religious. On their prayer list for me was breaking up the relationship. I saw it written down and I won’t address it but bring her with me every time I visit.

4 hours ago
stemroach101

Date her even harder

4 hours ago
FatLikeSnorlax_

The mother is single isn’t she

3 hours ago
Seamus_the_shameless

Remind her that dating an ugly person worked out pretty well for your gf's dad, so she shouldn't worry too much.

3 hours ago
TFT_mom

You should know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Personal anecdote: my husband doesn’t think he is beautiful. He is tall. Dark haired but not hairy. Fit (an agile build, think rock-climbing kind of physique). Gorgeous smile. There is literally nothing ugly about any part of his body and face. He still thinks he is “not beautiful” (probably because he was severely bullied in HS). I tell him I wish he could see himself through my eyes. I don’t think I will ever convince him he is a beautiful human being. 😅

3 hours ago
imanari_rollins

ask her why she’s got such an ugly mom

3 hours ago
DarkMalava

My parents used to bully all my boyfriends in all ways possible but specially about them not being good looking (or white) and not having money or an important last name, so I always told my boyfriends that it's me who they're with, not my parents, so ignore what they say and double down. I say the same to you. Tell your girl how she feels about it and if she supports you and loves you. honestly, that's all that matters.

2 hours ago
Candiedstars

My step mother asked me that too.

Beauty is subjective. Some people think Benedict Cumberbatch is gorgeous, others look an go "eww, really??"

My husband is stunning and if other people can't see it, I pity their eyes.

Your gf may well feel the same about you.

2 hours ago
alphagettijoe

If there were ever a time for “don’t hate the player, hate the game” this is probably it

1 hour ago
Stablebrew

make out with your girlfriend in front of her mom. Give really sloppy kisses, smack her ass, and whisper lewd stuff in her ear, but loud enough her mom can hear it. some time later, make a casual joke, how you're gonna make your gf fat with a baby belly.

47 minutes ago
K_A-W

Tell her you wanna be exclusive. That you're not sure who this ugly dude is that she's also dating, but it's either him or you

41 minutes ago
Mr-Dumbest

Its irrelevant what she said, here what is important is what was your gf reply.

39 minutes ago
Medellin2024

Start dating the dad

35 minutes ago
Crafty-Shape2743

I’m thinking that you haven’t been around toxic mothers much. Or if you have, you just don’t recognize this particular flavor of toxicity.

I’m pretty sure this wasn’t a slam on you. This may be a mother that is chipping away at her daughter’s confidence. iMO, any woman that has a mother that would ask her that needs all the support she can get.

Ignore the comment. But if you want to go on the deep dive, you could ask your girlfriend about her relationship with her mother.

34 minutes ago
Cypher10110

Why do you have such an unattractive hobby? And enjoy those boring movies? And read those weird books?

The answer should be, "Because I make my own choices, I like them, and why are you such a judgy asshole?"

Some parents are weirdly manipulative, and that sounds like what is happening here ("you should do things I like, not things you like"). It doesn't reflect on you at all, just them. Makes them seem kinda fucked up.

7 minutes ago
Hot_Audience_4046

Firstly, OP has not implied that he is „ugly“. It is his GF‘s mum who said it. I think ugly is a nasty term and should be reserved for someone who on the inside is „ugly“.

6 minutes ago
MrBrandopolis

impregnate the daughter again and again and again

8 hours ago
Ranchette_Geezer

Pretend you didn't hear it. Be polite to her.

12 hours ago
Concise_Pirate
🇺🇦 🏴‍☠️

Work on your appearance, if feasible.

12 hours ago
AcerbTed

So your giving him shit advice without the factts

12 hours ago
Concise_Pirate
🇺🇦 🏴‍☠️

WTF? Someone thinks he's strikingly ugly. That's a fact.

And it's never shit advice to improve your appearance, if feasible.

12 hours ago
King_Tut331

That’s most definitely an opinion there mate….

11 hours ago
Concise_Pirate
🇺🇦 🏴‍☠️

What part of it is just an opinion? The first part was flatly stated. And the second part, well, are you suggesting it's sometimes shit advice to improve your appearance? How is that a bad idea?

11 hours ago
King_Tut331

No, just the being ugly part. That’s purely subjective to the viewer.

11 hours ago
Veldern

I think the one your responding to is saying it's not an opinion that someone thinks he's ugly, which is true. Whether OP is actually ugly or not is an opinion

10 hours ago
Psiondipity

Improve your appearance to whose standard? Beauty is subjective you knob.

10 hours ago
LeTigron

What part of it is just an opinion?

The part where you considered the opinion of a random stranger 20 years older and not attracted to him as facts. So approx 100% of your message, that part.

10 hours ago
wrydied

The real power move here is to act like the mum is ugly and beneath your interest. Ignore anything she asks you. Pretend she doesn’t exist in social situations.

Women that care about the visual appearance of someone they shouldn’t are obsessed with their own appearance as a value of self worth. Ignoring her will trigger a mix of strong emotions including jealousy, insecurity, respect for you and even lust. She may even try and fuck you to resolve her psychological confusion, so be wary it is a power move as I said.

12 hours ago
SalamanderMan95

Yeah that’s a great way to build a relationship, treat their mom like shit

10 hours ago
SATANICSEXRITUAL

And try to get laid by gf's mom! Of course

10 hours ago
International_Hair16

What the hell is that ending LMAO

10 hours ago